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Some say cheating is the best way to handle being cheated on....you think?? email this discussion to a friend?

myLot reputation of 97/100. ucancallmedissy (2484)   ranked 9 out of 23,397 in relationships1 year ago

Yes, some people really do say that. They say that cheating back will ease the pain of being cheated on. I don't know if it's true or not, but it's kind of make sense, don't you think? It could give you your confidence back at some point, and makes us having that sense of winning other than being fooled. But I don't think it would make any relationship better, and it would make us the same as the one's really cheating.

What do you say? Cheat or not to cheat?

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 99/100. SomeCowgirl (8413)   ranked 15 out of 23,397 in relationships   1 year ago

I really think that anyone who cheats the cheater is only cheating themselves. I would definitely not cheat on anyone if they cheated on me and you are committing a sin if you do cheat. I know that it must be painful, but the better revenge is to move on from this person and find someone who will love you for all that you are and never even think of being unfaithful!


myLot reputation of 97/100. ucancallmedissy (2484)   ranked 9 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

Nicely said. But what if that is what you need to get over it and continue the relationship or a marriage for the sake of something? It's not rational, but some people say it works.

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myLot reputation of 99/100. SomeCowgirl (8413)   ranked 15 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

Well then I suppose to each their own!

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2. myLot reputation of 70/100. subha12 (16451)   ranked 686 out of 23,397 in relationships   1 year ago

i think its the right way when you want to take revenge. its the way some people would like to do. but for some, it will make the scar more. more you remember, more you get pains.


myLot reputation of 97/100. ucancallmedissy (2484)   ranked 9 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

Yes, it's revenge and it won't be fair to the other person too. Maybe it's good for some and not for others.

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3. myLot reputation of 48/100. psphacker (937)   ranked 6,598 out of 23,397 in relationships   1 year ago

remember everything u do comes back to u for example recently my front neighbor stoled a memory card i used with my cyclods evolution because that memory card was my brother's and i was using it like it was mine so i got jacked and all my wasted time
just got stolen.


myLot reputation of 97/100. ucancallmedissy (2484)   ranked 9 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

Hehe, nice example psphacker. All we do comes back to us, that's karma I guess.

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4. myLot reputation of 88/100. rsa101 (7434)   ranked 3,135 out of 23,397 in relationships   1 year ago

Well it feels good getting even with the person that cheated you. But the question is what have you gained from it? The sense of winning is just a feeling that is temporary and eventually you will have to regret on it since you just used someone just to get even. Do you think it will make your relationship even better or worst? i don't think it will help you or the party that cheated you.


myLot reputation of 97/100. ucancallmedissy (2484)   ranked 9 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

It would feel good maybe, and that's what we could gain from it, just the feeling of winning and some self confidence back. Better or worse? Probably almost definitely worse, and yes we're using someone to do that and that's not fair. But if we are so desperate of some thing that could make us feel good about ourselves? Wouldn't it be good for us?

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myLot reputation of 88/100. rsa101 (7434)   ranked 3,135 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

Well for me "the end does not justify the means". I would rather let him/her realized that he/she is worthless being a cheater and me I am not like him/her I play fair in everything in life.

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5. myLot reputation of 93/100. Goodie123 (7548)   ranked 1,191 out of 23,397 in relationships   1 year ago

If I ever found my partner was cheating on me Dissy,
He would never be able to cheat again.
Because he would be missing certain equipment,
that is needed when cheating.

So NO, I do not think cheating on a cheater is the best way to handle things.


myLot reputation of 97/100. ucancallmedissy (2484)   ranked 9 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

LOL!! Thanks for the great response Goodie, I needed a good laugh lol
Another alternative, haha.

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6. myLot reputation of 99/100. mimpi1911 (8139)   ranked 26 out of 23,397 in relationships   1 year ago

That's not the right way daisy. That's what I feel. How can we resort to something gross like that when we are hurt and sad by itself! I would not do it ever. There are several other ways to punish but eye for an eye is just not my kind.

Be happy


myLot reputation of 97/100. ucancallmedissy (2484)   ranked 9 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

What other ways mimpi, ways that could mend the broken heart and the broken marriage? Without making the cheated feeling fooled and taken for granted, when a divorce is out of the way.

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7. myLot reputation of 94/100. skbh12 (1169)   ranked 5,597 out of 23,397 in relationships   1 year ago

nah. i don't believe on that saying because it is simply showing that you went DOWN to your expartner's level if you cheat on other people. it would be better if you remain the same person as you should be because cheating as your way of diverting the feeling from being cheated will bring your reputation down.

I WOULD STILL SAY NO TO CHEATING AND YES TO GOOD DEEDS.

WITH CHEATING, YOU AIN'T CONSIDERED A WINNER BUT A BIG LOSER..


myLot reputation of 97/100. ucancallmedissy (2484)   ranked 9 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

Haha, nice points there skbh. Thanks!

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8. myLot reputation of 98/100. msmell (867)   ranked 6,022 out of 23,397 in relationships   1 year ago

Well I honestly dont see how that would really make you feel any better....

For starters it wont make you forget that you loved one slept with someone else so those feeling are still there no matter what and then on top of feeling really bad about being cheated on you have to deal with the quilt that you yourself slept with someone else too and then you too look just as bad as the partner did in the first place!

When you try to get back at someone with revenge the only person that ends up getting hurt is yourself! They should just give up and walk away be done with it or forgive the person and move on.


myLot reputation of 97/100. ucancallmedissy (2484)   ranked 9 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

That's right, it will end up hurting us more, but if the initial hurt is big enough I don't think it would make anymore difference?

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9. myLot reputation of 92/100. NrgDfenZ (1679)   ranked 1,328 out of 23,397 in relationships   1 year ago

Absolutely not the best way:D
I think it would break the relationship even more, what you should to is talk about it, see why he/she did it and then make a decission on how to go on with life. But definitely not cheat:D

Have a good day..


myLot reputation of 97/100. ucancallmedissy (2484)   ranked 9 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

Yeah, talking sounds nice too happy
Thanks.

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10. Crimson888 (74)   ranked 6,286 out of 23,397 in relationships   1 year ago

For me, I don't think that cheating is the best way to ease your pain and in fact, it will only bring more people into your suffering and it is also the same as building your happiness on other people's suffering..
We had already been cheated and knows the suffering of being cheated and therefore, why should we go and cheat other people and even if it makes us feels better for just a moment, we will be guilty for the rest of our life because when we do something that hurts other, we will never ever forgive ourselves...
Hence, if we got cheated, we should just take it as a lesson learned and make sure we don't make the same mistake again...


myLot reputation of 97/100. ucancallmedissy (2484)   ranked 9 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

You're right, I guess it would hurt more people than necessary.

Happy mylotting and have a nice day!!


myLot reputation of 90/100. Residual (849)   ranked 3,528 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

Crimson888,

I agree with you on this two wrongs donot make a right and the pain and suffering has to stop somewhere so let it be with the one who started it. Life is so precious to all and because one member in a relationship did the cheating doesn't mean the other has to do the same thing and hurt others in the process.

There is a great difference between love and lust and that is where we must base our values. Cheating only puts person on a lower level because they are cheating theirselves out of happiness.


myLot reputation of 84/100. amanda333 (539)   ranked 5,178 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

Never cheat back, I was cheated on when i was young (before I met my husband), and it hurts like hell. To go off with someone soon after to prove a point, well your emotions are all over the place and you'll end up in a bigger mess. Its best just to say "this man/woman was not right for me" and move on, there's always someone out there who is the special one for you. I was engaged twice before i married my husband, and they both cheated on me, I've been married a long time now and my husband is a good man.


tikiselene (72)   ranked 7,120 out of 23,397 in relationships  1 year ago

I think that it is a very bad idea. You might temporarily feel better but in the long run feel like crap to know you are just like the other person. Have some higher values and just walk away or something. No matter what someone else does to us, we don't need to do the same thing back to them.

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