Who should pay for mom and dad's care?

why put them in a care? if they have children why not one of you do it for them. here in my country its the relative or one of the kids will do that. specially if not busy in work and just staying in the house they are the one who will do the care for them.

I really do not know anymore who should have to pay for the elderly parents care. I think it should be government assisted and not the burden of the rest of the family members.We can barely afford to live as it is now.

I use care myself even though I am not elderly. I have a disability. The state pays for me to hire people and have them help me do things. The elderly are also eligible for this service in most places. However, many elderly do not take advantage of it. This means that family members must provide free care. The actual term is informal care giving. However, I think it's easier to let the government pay. Why else do you pay taxes? If you need some help figuring out these issues, feel free to send me a message. I live to help people in these situations.

I work in the medical field. As far as I'm concerned, anyone who doesn't do their share to help an elderly person who gets sick should just flat be cut out of the inheritance. Too often, no one will be there when mom and dad get sick but everyone has their hand out when they die. Vultures!

This is such a hard thing. When I was growing up, my grandmother lived with us for 13 years. She had 5 other kids, and she did visit them for 3-6 weeks at a time sometimes. But our house was home base and what she called home. Then my folks had their 4th child and there wasn't room for grandma anymore. For a while, she had a one-bedroom apartment. Then she chose to go to a retirement center/nursing home while she could still get around and care for herself. A few years later, she had a stroke and hardly left the bed again for almost 6 years. Most people put off these kinds of decisions until it is too late. My dad had Parkinson's and Alzheimer's and I lived with my parents for almost two years. One of my sisters provided them with a house, and I watched over them. When I got married again, another sister took my parents into her home. Then Dad went to a nursing home, and passed away in 2005 from pneumonia. Mom went into an assisted living center, and whatever money Dad left for her will soon be eaten up...and my two sisters will have to kick in to help keep her there. Since I have no income, I can't help.