If you could ensure that your children would never experience that you have
By sharie16
@sharie16 (2212)
Philippines
August 21, 2008 6:34am CST
had during your childhood days, what would it be?
For me, It felt sad that I haven't experienced love from my mother, it seems that I am the only member in the family who is not treated well..feels really sad and pain as I grow up...and until now, I still feel so indifferent in the family, I felt like I am not a member of the family...The most painful is that being accused by my mother from a sin that it wasn't my fault, nor did I ever done it...And I wouldn't want that to happen to my son and the future kids i will be having, as much as possible, I'll show and let them feel the real love and equality in the family...
How bout you? Care to share?
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3 responses
@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
21 Aug 08
Hi sharie!
It saddens me to hear about the relationship you have with your mom, and the way you feel.
It's hard to feel as if you are the outcast,i believe we should feel the most secure with our family.
As for me i would never want my children to grow up without me there, i know how it feels to not have my mom in the home with us kids growing up.
My mom left my dad when i was 8, and it was hard not having her there, i always felt as if something was missing from my life.
Having my mom there was something i wanted so bad growing up, and i made a vow that no matter what i'd always be there to raise my children, and that's something i have fought to do, and will continue to do for as long as they need me.
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@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
I was treated right when I was a kid and so loved, but not by own mother, it's my aunt. My mom was so sick when I was born that she couldn't take care of me, so it was my aunt. And when my Mom got better, She was too busy in starting a business. So now that I have kids, my husband and I decided that I should be the one to attend ro my kid's needs personally, since my husband also experienced the same when he was a kid, grew up with nannies.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
21 Aug 08
It does sound like a sad situation. There were moments as a child that I felt like I could have used more affection and attention. Some children grow up with hostility because of that and some don't.
I guess it can come down to each individual's attitude and how they deal with the situation. Some children could possibly be predisposed to a life of crime because of lack of love or neglect and turn it on society. Those are the more drastic behaviors that I heard could happen.
That is not to say that some unfortunate happenings in childhood like feeling unwanted is going to lead to insanity or horrible crimes later in life.
In my case I have turned things around and have a son of my own. And I agree with what you say in how you are going to treat your children. With love and equality. I respect you for that. You are a courageous woman.
