Are you ever suprised or reminded of things about your spouse you had forgotten?

Well, although it wasn't the point of the discussion, he's not really into physical affection. We're not old yet! We're in our thirties. For me a good relationship is two people who are best friends, a partner is someone you go to talk about problems, philosophy and silly things. What happened in the day and what new things your toddler (we have a twenty month old) has learned or what silly things he did. Not someone to be silent with. Too lonely. I can't imagine being silent for the rest of my life. I miss guy friends who knew how to tell stories, made up to amuse me or real. Who listened to mine. They shared their problems with girls, work, family life. I say guy friends because I've never been friends with girls - too fake usually. And they don't tend to like me. My first boyfriend told me its because I'm too nice. They think its either fake or know I'm competition. That guys might like the wild girls but they settle down forever with the nice girls. Anyway, why would anyone want to be with someone they try to avoid? The best and longest relationships that I know, the two just got closer, they wanted each other physically more each year, they always have things to talk about, more the more they knew each other. Extremely affectionate. One couple I know, even worked together for awhile - so they saw each other all the time and loved it. My brother and sister-in-law talk a lot as well and they tease each other and the whole family plays games together which encourage interaction. At one time, my brother wouldn't talk or express his emotions, and she said if he didn't open up, she was leaving. And meant it. Slowly but surely he did - and he appreciates her pushing because their relationship is richer and deeper and they are true partners. He realized its healthy to share feelings and now he is the mediator with the entire family and he's the one I call when for advice or when I'm worried about another family member. I love my husband, but he's always been a loner and think he would do better with a girl who is more gothy then me and likes to play online games like him and can play them day and night when not at work. And of course, enjoys different foods. For him, food is affection, when I was pregnant, he didn't rub my feet or back or give me hugs and tell me it was okay when I was feeling tired, instead he would go out and get my favourite foods even late at night. And even now he'll do that or cook for me. But that isn't the point of this discussion. My question is in this discussion is, does your partner ever do anything that suprises you (like me learning that he writes well) or that reminds you of something great about the person (his friendly, polite voice).

I do appreciate your point of view on this though. And love your avatar.

oops.. guess i got your point wrong ... but is it not true .. if your partner is it not tru ..when your partner sitting at playing on the computer game .. you can just walk over .. give a kiss on the cheek and walk off . my husband is similar ... all day long on weekends he is in front of television .. with the laptop to play solitair .. no time for me .. at most times he his so absorbed in his own world thingking about his things ...he sleeps on the couch ... so i am left with no choice but to have stolen moments with him ... and i do get rewarded for being naughty ... as you said .. some surprises about your husband ..(just turn it around you give him the surprise and .. spice it up) well ... yes back to your topic, there are some changes in them that surprise us .. he never uses glasses, and one day he borrowed glasses to read ... and yes he looked so sexy.. i liked it ...so i bough him a hunky glass .. cheers