At what age did you/ will you marry?
By don_naces
@don_naces (464)
Philippines
September 18, 2008 11:08am CST
Is there really such thing as age requirement? Yes, you must be at leat 18 years old. It's only that. So simple, right? Right now, I am 23 years old and still have no plans to get married. I know time will come. I am not in a hurry. It's not a race. My parents got married at ages 28 and 24 for my mother and my father, respectively. At that ages, I think they're old enough.
The problem with early marriage as what I have observed in our society today is either the husband or the wife has no stable work. What about their needs? Will they survive? NO MONEY!!! Now, there goes the so-called "war". I don't want that to happen. Mostly young couples are too excited to have many kids, not thinkinbg of their cappacity.
I think age is not a problem in getting married as long as you or your partner has a stable job. Many young couples are still depending on their parents. Not only the young ones but also the adults.
What's your plan? Did you or would you like to experience those things? Think it over.
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10 responses
@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
18 Sep 08
don, you are a very wise person. I myself was barly 18 years old when I got married.I thought that I knew what I was doing, but I really did not even know what love was all about back then, that was the biggest mistake that I have ever made in my life.We moved 1000 miles away from where we were born and raised. I remained married and had 2 children by this man but divorced him after we were married 21 years.Now my children and grandchildren are here, my parents and siblings live 1000 miles from me..No one should get married at a young age.
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@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
26 Sep 08
don, you are right we make mistakes, but we have to move on. Glad you are smarter than I was way back then. thanks for best response.
@don_naces (464)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
Thanks! I know you are very strong person because you were able to move on. What is important now is that you are happy with your life. Just think that what happened to you was just a trial. Nobody wants to commit mistakes. Good day!
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
27 Nov 08
Hey don! I got married at the age of 22. I just got married this year and I never regretted it. Your age is not the marrying type yet, but maybe when you reach 25 - 27 the realization of getting married will come into you. I agree with you that nowadays, it's hard to get married and have your own family because we are facing economic crisis now. If ever you decided to get married, try to marry a woman who can help you with the finances.
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
16 Oct 08
[i]Hello don,
I got married at the age of 30,,,I just didn't meet the right guy earlier..LOL!
You are correct about it, it will be good if parents can support the new family but if not, it will be very hard for the new couple as well as the babies![/i]
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I would say the right age for marriage is thirty, by the time we have a stable career.@don_naces (464)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
I agree with you that thirty is the right age to marry. If you already have a stable career, then why not marry next year? The earlier the better. Your girlfriend's parents seem to have you as their daughter's lifetime partner. If you think you're ready, then grab the opportunity.
@BinaryKat (735)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I am 25 years old and I am planning to get married next March if everything works out ok. I am currently trying to find work again and hope to be working before that time. I am three years older than when my mom got married to my dad. Times have changed since when they got married where one can live off one salary. Not that is not possible nowadays but I know for me since I know how much money my fiancee is making, we had to crunch the numbers and we need a supplemental income to take care of extra things. My father gave me and my fiancee advice on this so we are doing our best making sure the foundation is firm before laying the house on it if you get what I mean.
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@viduviduvidu (293)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I was married when I was 24. Its one's own personal choice when to get married. Getting married in the 20's has some advantages. You get to spend your youth and love with the man of your life. You can start with parenting, which is tedious and on-going task, a little early in life, etc.
@don_naces (464)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
I think you're very happy with your married life. Just keep it up! You have the right choice. Good day!
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
6 Apr 09
I was 34 when I got Married, and just Celebrated my 10 yr. Wedding anniversary and could never be happier. For me, I had to wait until the time was right, and then when I met my husband I knew he was the one. So many people anymore rush into Marriage never thinking about what it means. Personally it should be up to you to decide, and when the right one comes along you will know.
@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 09
I have absolutely NO plans whatsover in getting married, I enjoy being single too much, I am 37 years old and still love my single life, why get married? There is nothing to say that marriage is compulsory and there is certainly nothing in writing that says you have to be married at a certain age! Even people in their 50s and 60s get married. Just because you are not married or still single that shouldn't make any difference to the kind of person you are and thus no one should be ostracized for not being married.
@kykidd (6812)
• United States
31 May 10
I was first married when I was only 18 years old. I married the same guy that I dated all through high school. He was a bit older than me, he was 25. Although, I think on a maturity level that we were both about the same. However, it ended in divorce. We weren't even happy only 6 months later. So, I guess neither one of us were really ready. Or perhaps, we just weren't right for each other even though we had dated all of that time.
I am not sure that there is a right or wrong age to get married. The main thing is that you marry the right person. And I think that you will know down deep in your heart when you are with the right person.
I hope that you will not worry about age, and when the right person comes along you will know it. Good luck to you in finding the person who is right for you.
@cream97 (29085)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Hi, don_naces! I got married when I was 22 and a half years old. I am still married now to the same man as of today. We were not the riches people in the world but we did do the best that we can in taking care of our kids. It takes a lot of responsibility that is for sure. It takes preparation too.
