At What Age Should A Child Learn About The Birds And The Bees???

I think that as soon as a child is able to understand certain concepts, this subject should be started, little by little. Age 13 is too late, but better late than never. Many young girls are already losing their virginity by age 13 because they think they have to to get a guy to like them. With the way media is these days, kids are growing up much faster than ever and getting into this earlier and earlier. By fifth grade girls are being told about their cycles. That is around age 10. I think that in the very least many things can be taught for protective reasons way before that age. Many girls cycles start around age 10 and they definitely need to know something by then. Being taught about how to handle inappropriate touch and behavior should begin as soon as the child can understand things you tell them. It isn't difficult to tell a young child, even a pre-schooler, that no one should be touching them anywhere that a bathing suit covers unless it is the doctor if the child is injured or sick and only then if mommy or daddy is there with them. Training can continue from that point on as the child gets older.

I don't think there is any certain age that is good. Its a continuing process thruout growing up. As parents you should always be willing to answer their questions, age appropriate of course. Its important to be open to talk, about anything with your children, you want them to come to you. I have always told my son he could tell me anything, believe me some things I would rather have not known. My granddaughters know they can come to me with anyhing too. You just have to be open and honest.

That teacher should of told your sister about that incident when it happened. I would of been angry if I wasn't told.

I don't know when it is a good time to start talking about it, because every child is different, but if you have open communication with your children and they start to ask questions about their bodies and stuff, then you know it's time to start. Even as early as 10. It doesn't have to be the full on talk but you know bits and peices, as they start to get curious about their bodies and wanting to know more, then you share more - keep the communication open so they don't feel uncomfortable to come and share with you. That's what I encourage with my son even though he isnt' at an age to understand this part, but just letting him know he can come to us for anything.

There is a book out for girls that has apparently been given lots of good reviews. I need to find the title as I've forgotten. I got the information from a site I joined for parents and mothers were saying it helped when it came to 'the talk'. I'll find the title and post it here.

I never got the talk and wish my mother sat me down and spoke to my twin and I about the birds and the bees and the changes that were happening with our bodies.

I was thinking that 10 or 11 would be appropriate.

However, some aspects need to be taught before grade school such as inapproriate touching.

People sometimes touch. People sometimes touch wrong spots by accident. But there is times where touching is all wrong and kids, especially little girls, need to KNOW what's going on. Boys too, but especially girls.

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This is a question all parents want an answer for but its not an easy answer it really depends on the child. We all want the best for our children and also truly, wants to protect our children from things that can be harmful to them. In doing this, we have to give our children the equipments to protect themselves.
In saying this we realized that not all children are equal, some are more "advance" than others. I had a 5 year old, who asked about the birds and the bees, and as I started to lie, he explained that if I am not going to be serious about his question he can find out some other way. We dont want our children going through other sources for this information. Some parents believe that its the schools that should teach them. I believe that learning should begin in the home specially moral and ethics. The teachers only influence what is learned in the home Also the world wide web is open for all types of information and all types of predators.
Its important that as a parents it your right to teach your children but believe this if you dont someome or something will.

I don't think there's a specific age. When they start to be curious about it, try to let them ask you. It's awkward for me but I would want to have my child know about the facts. At least tell them what they should know. If they aren't curious about it then I won't initiate it. However, I do want to teach my children about being safe when with strangers and knowing what are other people's limitations when it comes to their bodies. You know, the good touch and the bad touch just so I'm sure that they are same from people who might take advantage of their ignorance or innocence.

Children of today are growing up much quicker than children did when I was growing up or even when mine were in the 70's and 80's. My daughter's childrens' ages range from 12 1/2 to 19 1/2. You better believe the younger boys (12 1/2 & 14 1/2) know about all there is to know about the birds and bees! My daughter sat her kids down at an early age and told them. Girls mature much earlier than boys do, and much earlier than they did in earlier years. They need to know all about their bodies and the dos and don'ts. That way they can fend for themselves when boys are 'boys'. Boys should be told so that know how to treat girls as girls, not just objects. They need to know that you need to respect one another.

I think your sister was sitting on a time bomb by not talking to her daughter before age 13. Kids in grammar school know about the birds and bees. I started talking to my children when they were young, gradually giving them more information as they asked questions. They don't need to know specifics in the early grades, but they should know most everything by the age of 10 or 11. If a parent doesn't tell them, they are going to get the wrong information from their peers.

I have a 10 year old son. He still thinks girls are yukky. There are a lot of girls in our neighborhood. More so than boys. So when he goes out to play, he is mostly playing with girls. They play a lot of different things together like tag, hide and seek and sports. Sometimes football and wrestling. Well, I've told my son that he can't tackle girls or wrestle them. There are certain places that little boys shouldn't touch little girls. He knows some of the basics about the birds and the bees, but I haven't told him the answer to "that question" yet. Where do babies come from.

On the other hand, I have a niece who just turned 7. She is advancing physically much quicker than other 7 year old girls. She has to shave her legs already because she has so much hair growing. She, because of her advancement, is very interested in boys. But to her dismay, because of the young age, they are not interested in her yet. Her mother, my sister-in-law has already had to have the talk with her daughter.

So personally, I think there is no right or wrong age to tell your children about the birds and the bees. It should work on a case by case basis. If you feel your child is ready for the talk, give it to them. Only you know your kids that well to determine if they are ready.

it can be a young age are older age since all children mature differently when they start asking question don,t avoid the question talk to them and be as honest as possible with them.because if you don,t tell them someone else will and it may not be correct.