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I think I notice it more because I work in the service industry. I just think the fact that two simple words can change a persons attitude should be taken more seriously. I may have had an argument before I came to work. That doesnt mean I can take it out on all my customers. I make a point to shake it off. I have literally seen it where a person came in frowning and because of a nice comment left smiling. For example there's this guy that comes in every morning for a large iced. Every morning he has the same exact look on his face. Very serious looking. ALmost unhappy. For the last week and a half I have made it a point to make him smile or at least try. Yesterday he came in and looks at me with the same face then all of a sudden puts on this great big toothless smile. I wanted to cry. I know its only one person. It has to start somewhere. When people see him smiling thay may notice that he is even happy and it may rub off. who knows. I do know this. Change cant take place if some one doesnt start it somewhere. I honestly believe it starts at home. Teaching our children about PLEASE and THANK YOU'S. DL

GIrl you are soooooo right. I forgot about the thank you cards. When I was young and had a birthday party my mom made me read the card first then open the gift. As I opened the gift I had to hold it up so everyone could see and tell who it was from. Most importantly I had better had said thank you or else. I was at a party recently. THe child literally snatched the present out of the mothers hand and began to rip the paper without a care in the world. NO thank you or nothing. THe mother said absolutely nothing. I dont think she even knew that he should say thank you. THere's a problem!!!!! We have to begin at home. If every one teaches their children manners we may succeed in having a courteous polite conversation sometime in the next century. Thanks for understanding. Happy MyLotting. dl

Its sad to see the youngsters of today taking something without saying please, may I, or thank you. I would never take anything without asking and saying please. If we practice a polite dialogue, others will follow. Imitation is the finest form of flattery. It does take an entire village to raise a child. However, I dont think its fair to put it on society the fact that your child is impolite. We have to take responsibility. I have seen it so many times. Someone gives a child a dollar or some candy and the child takes it and runs. No thank you or nothing. WHo's fault is that? You then hear the parent say " he/she gets that from her father/mother. Let's play the blame game. thanks dl

I think what is lacking is responsibility snd basic respect for all others. I can count on one hand the thank you notes I've gotten from my Grandchildren, I would not have dared forget to thank my Grandparents or parents for anything they did for me. We have just gotten out of the habit and that's not good

There's a big difference with saying thank you for service and telling someone thanks for trying to cut me in line. NOT! You are absolutely right in not saying thank you. YOu should have said Fxxx YOU! Sorry about that. Its gets me so mad how shady some people try to be. When people do this to me I call them on it. The last time I was helping at a food bank. THis little, sweet elderly woman was waiting so patiently in line for her bags of food. This other family who trys to take advantage of the whole food bank thing anyways, walked up and stood right in front of her. THe poor old woman didnt say a word. I said to myself Hell no! I walked up and told them to go to the end of the line. They were shocked. No one had ever approached them before. THey tried to cut three more times then they were told if they did it again they had to leave. ARE YOU SERIOUS? These people were in there 20's. THey brought five people just to get an extra bag of food. THen when they got their bag, NO PLEASE OR THANK YOU's. Can u believe it? Its embarassing to think how far people will go to get over on the system. I hope they get what they deserve. Eventually someone will do to them what they have done to others. I only hope I will be there to see it!LOL dl

that would be fun to watch and for you to see it would be most wonderful for you.