How can a person

Hard experiences make you tougher to face the challenges of life and do not make you bitter.

They can't. It's impossible. We have all been bitter at some point in our lives.

How can anyone not be bitter?

That is a very tough question for me to be able to answer for oyu. I have been through alot of bad things in my life and it has really made a change in me. Some of them are good and alot of them are bad. It has made me a bitter person towards alot of things in life because of it. I tend to just stay away from the things that made me that way.

I don't know what the answer is to this.. I have often wondered what it is that makes people BECOME so bitter.

Don't get me wrong, I have been through what I am sure hell would be. I just don't understand being bitter about it.

Sure, bad things affect us.. just tonight, i cowered and closed my eyes when someone went to give me the remote control.. though I know they wouldnt hurt me for the world. But little things like that aside... I think it is easier to not be bitter, than to be. Certainly easier on one's own spirit.

Hard times always brings a bit of resentment and bitterness with them. All one can do is trudge forward and try to improve things as you go along lifes winding road.
I try to think about the positive things in life and ways to improve the others as well. Nothing ventured is nothing gained. So I try to persevere and improve my life through learning new things. I love to write and vent my feelings on paper often. Sometimes this helps get a new perspective on a situation thats very troublesome.

That is a hard question.I think if you are tired, or stressed, those bad feelings seem to take control.And of course if you are having hard experiences, then you will be tired and stressed. Hubby #1 was always at least mildly depressed, but his attitude, when he became ill was not "Why me?" but rather, "Why not me?" he was thankful for anyone who chose to help him, and for the way his company took care of him. I guess gratitude is one way to avoid bitterness. I have heard people say they keep a gratitude journal,and even if it is gratitude for the little bird on the sidewalk, they try to find a set number of things to be grateful for, and write them down daily. You might start with three things daily that you can be grateful for, and see if writing them down helps them increase, or changes your perspective. I hope this is not preachy, friend, but helpful. We used to watch lots of old Shirley Temple movies, and things like that. A favorite was "It's a Wonderful Life" and we also like Pollyanna.

Oean, I believe that bitterness can never be avoided if a person experience hardships in life, well, I had been in the past. The way I overcome such negative attitude was by strongly maintaining a positive outlook in life founded by my faith in God. It was not easy at all but with His help, I managed to survive. Have a nice day my Friend!

If you feel bitter about an experience that has hurt you deeply don't beat yourself up about it. Acknowledge it, but then try to find something to be thankful for. Turn your mind to other who have less or a worse time than you do. Notice the sun when it shines, and the wind when it blows and marvel at the glory of the universe. The bitterness will eventually fade.

I have lived a harsh 57 years. I have not become bitter because of a firm belief that God would not put more on my plate than I can handle. Without that faith, I'd have been a goner from early on!

When the bitter person is amply rewarded with happiness in life may be then he can stop being bitter. But my experience is that the bitter memories always cause bitterness and pain though you are doing well at present.