On Saturday my son is moving...

I'm not there yet, but when the last one moves out, that's when I plan the trip to Hawaii. lol Anyways make sure you do not kick him in the butt on his way out. But seriously, I would just give him a hug and probably that's all.

i can not be of any help to you. i was sooooo upset when both of mind moved out i cried for days. one good thought they can always come back home but it's never the same. i wish you both luck.

Honesty is the best policy. What's wrong with getting upset? Let him know how ya feel but that you know you AND he will be ok. Then tell him you are just getting the feelings out of yir system. He will understand, I think!

Aw you poor thing, it must be hard! I remeber when i stopped living with my parents (it was them that moved out rather than me- bit of a wierd one!!lol) my mum found it really difficult, they moved 90 miles to being with when i was 17 and then just before i turned 18 they moved to malta, i know my mum was a wreck and i really missed them too. After a while though i realised that my relationship was a lot better with my parents when i wasn't living with them, especially with my dad! When my brother went to uni my mum was even worse, he was her oldest too and she cried for hours after we left him there, but she quickly adjusted. Your son will understand how you feel, if you are upset when he goes he won't think it's because you aren't happy for him, he'll know it's because you love him and you're going to miss him! 3 miles probably does feel like 100s now but you'll soon get used to it, there's nothing like you own mum's cooking so he'll be back to fill his tummy up at some point!!!

It is hard, no matter if it is your first born leaving or your youngest..I have four children and the older 2 are on their own..I remember when my oldest moved out, it did fell lonely, but I knew she was ready..My other one, he had actually moved out for a year, came back for a few months and moved again and my youingest was so upset, it upset me..

Time...That is what it will take, just give it time..Cry it out if you need to, we spend 18 years molding this person and next thing you know, they are gone..But also remember, that this child will always be your child and will continue to come to you with questions and asking for advice..Also remember, never give advice unless you are asked, or they won't ask you when they really do need it..

Also, help him move, make it a family thing and make good memories of this next step in your sons life..

Hey loud! I am trying to answer this discussion which is
all serious and that damn camel is in my face running!
Anyway, I'll try to ignore it! Ah poor Loud, her baby
is flying the nest! I know that it's hard to see him
leave and you want hims to stay with you forever, but
he's not going that far and he's going to still be
your baby forever and he will still see you. You have
to let him do this and maybe he won't like it there and
he will come back. You just have to let him do his thing.
Just let him know that you love him and that your door
is always open for him to come home if he ever wants
to come back and that if her ever needs you for any
reason you are there for him. And try to be strong
when he goes even though you are upset. He's only 3
miles away! You can go visit him!

I hope this helps you.
I have been there once and getting ready for the 2nd round.
My oldest now 24 moved out 4 years ago. I thought my world was ending. Now my youngest one 18 is leaving for college in a few months.
The consolation is he will be back. I agree that it isn't the same but I make a joke of it now and tell him I see him more now than when he lived here. LOL
He comes over about 3 times a week (just about dinner time!LOL) and somtimes crashes on the couch for the night.
He too lives with his g/f and I first thought he was coming because of trouble between them (you know the suspicious mom thing) but they get along fine and she comes with him once a week on Fridays.
It is different but we have an adult relationship now and I enjoy seeing him when he comes but I'm ready for him to leave too! LOL
Now the next round may no be so easy since there is noone left to take up the slack but I think you will get to know him in a whole different way now!
Good Luck

Hi Loud, I really feel for you as I have had to go through this twice already as both my girls live away, one because of work location and the other at University. I would go with your emotions and tell him that you are proud of him and will miss him not being at home 24/7 but that he knows where you are if ever he needs you and not to hesitate to call and give him a big hug and if tears fall allow them them and he'll porbably say 'oh muuuuuum' but he will be feeling the same inside too as it is a big move for him but a happy one as he will be with his girlfriend. The meds would be my concern too but his girlfriend and her parents are aware he has epilepsy so I am sure he will be reminded to but also I am sure he will remember himself too. I can relate to the 3 miles seeming like a 100 my younger daughter is about 20 miles away but may as well be in a different country sometimes but we are in contact by text and calls a lot and she is over with her boyfriend Saturday night. I can understand the close bond you two must have so can almost feel the pain within this discussion, there is something special about mums and sons anyway but for it to have been you and him for so long it will be a big transistion but one I am sure you'll be fine with after the initial upheaval of the move. Good luck for Saturday. Understanding Huggles. Ellie:D

it is odd when they first leave home, one
of mine left and we didnt see him for ages
the other son used to pop back everyday for
his dinner and for me to do his washing LOL
we tried to explain that this wasnt really
moving out but it did help the moving
problem. we just found the house to be so
quiet and felt really big, although we still
had 2 left at home it still felt empty, just
make sure they are still a part of your life
even though they sleep under a different roof.

Well I can say before anything else that he picked a horrible time to move. Waiting till' at least a month or so after the election of whichever the new president might have been a better time. However! If he's not really moving all by himself with him and his GF to pay a full load of rent & bills I guess that isn't too bad. Uh. Well. You could say simply, "i'm happy for you and good luck!" and then top it off with a hug? I donnt know, I suppose when the time comes, you'll know?