Do you have a problems with saying

I think it gets easier with age, OT. When you're young, you do tend to want to please everyone - and it can be very hard when it goes against the grain. Age is a wonderful thing, because suddenly you seem to gain the courage of your convictions and can be firm with people. In the end they respect you for it, when you show them you're not a pushover. So go tell 'em, girl!

Hi OceanTiara, Thank you for starting this discussion as a great many of us has over the years had a real problem with saying no, especially to family and friends. This not only often ends in resentment, but such feelings also lead to many physical problems as well. There was a time when I had this problem myself so I speak from experience. I now understand that although I may want to help someone, and I still do when I can, I cannot overextend myself. It has become much easier now to say no and feel okay about it. I have come to realize that you cannot help others until you help yourself first. A good way to know when to give is by your feelings. If you feel good about helping, do it, if don't say no, because if you don't feel good about it you may be beginning to feel resentment towards that person. Blessings.

Being conscious of yourself as far as how often you say yes when you shouldn't should help. It becomes so easy to simply stay in a holding pattern and just repeat the same behaviors over and over until it doesn't really matter how you answered. And then you suffer the consequences. A friend of mine was just telling me of how her spoiled daughter has simply exploited her out of her senses because she's always said yes and suddenly she can no more. I don't have a problem saying no because I know my limitations and because I know it's necessary to say it. That's my answer and I'm sticking to it.

Hi OceanT..I am very much afraid that `NO` is a word that does not come easily to my lips!for years I have been trying to perfect the art of saying that word,but I have never managed to do it.It has lumbered me with all kinds of jobs,being incapable of saying no..lolone of the most irritating was making a set of curtains for a caravan,that was years ago when caravans were all the rage,I started out with verve,and I reckon that I made a decent enough job of them,well it appeared that I did!as soon enough Mr Ruby was marching in the front door with yet another request!another caravanning couple needing new blinds.They were frustrating to sew because they are small curtains,and as you will know when you are making something for someone else you become hyper critical of your own work,a trait which follows me around I am afraid to say.I am now going to stand in front of the mirror and practise saying `no`..but lol maybe not,I will have to look at the wrinkles if I do that for too long!

hi ocean...

first is my husband ... he is right always n he is perfect n better than anyone... so whatever he says it is "yes"

second is his family, they are perfect lots.. if they say your cooking stinks then it is yes ... even though your friends may enjoy it

cheers

same problem here...I have a problem with saying no to literally everyone...i always want to please others more than myself so I am often agreeing to things i never really want in the first place...i will definetely chekc your link, thank you so much for sharing it sweetheart

I agree with you,it is hard for me to say no!

I do too! I found myself getting so geared up to tell someone no, then they look at me and I am like, ok sure we can do this . Ug, what is the matter with me . I am a sucker for someone that is in trouble or needs something and find I put myself in trouble by helping others. It would be nice to have a harder heart I suppose.

For me it would be work and it shouldn't be but I always feel that if they are stuck and they need someone to cover a shift then I have to go in and do it...It has nothing to do with the money and also, I hate my job but I just feel that I can't say no to them anyway!

~Heavens~

I have a hard time saying no to my boyfriend only because if I do he makes sad faces at me. He's like a cat he nudges me with his head and whines till I say yes, lol.