First Birthday Party Blues!

I would do what you planned. Then if the grandmothers want to do something special with your son, let them after you have had his first birthday party.
I would kindly tell them that you think it is very nice that they want to host his party, but you have been looking forward to this and dont want to hurt either of their feelings. Tell them if they want to have him over for just a celebration dinner with your immediate family and them, you would love to do that.

I would politely tell them both that this is your child and you have first dibs on the party plans, they can have many years to have a party for him but you get the first one, and any other one's you think are special. Like the 16th birthday is special and the 18th one oh and the 21st one too.

Do they know you already have plans? If yes, then they are being overbearing and you need to make it clear that he is your child and you will make the decision. If no, then you need to, diplomatically but firmly, tell them that you have already made plans, tell them what they are, that you, as the mom, are excited about them and hope that they will respect your decisions. Good luck!

I would just give them an excuse,tell them that you want to the party were EVERYONE would feel comfortable.wether its at your place,or a resaurant or spotrsplex . Cause really having a party at someone elses house is uncomortable! i know my parents would feel uncomfortable going to my mother in laws and same other way around..lol

hi sev123 yes have that special birrthday party for your son, his first is really so special and make mom and mom in law understand that they can have parties for him too but the first one has to be at home as it just too special to do a nything else. they will understand or else they wont but dont back down. have fun and happy birthday to the birthday boy.

I would tell them of my plans, which would probally include everybody that they plan on inviting, and tell them that if they still want to do something special before or after then thats fine. They will most likely not.

There's no good way out of this. This happened to my eldest daughter. She was the eldest granddaughter to both parties so they had their own ideas on how to celebrate it. Although it would hurt them I had to put my foot down and insist that they do it my way. We are the mothers and what we want should be first in line. If they want to throw another party then let them but not on the child's exact birthday. Or they could incorporate what they want into your own idea. That could help too. But nonetheless whatever the outcome maybe the baby is still number one priority.

hello sev123,
I understand how you feel and luckily I have not encountered that problem that you're having right now. In my own opinion, I guess you better go ahead and do your plans. But you need to talk to your mother and mother-in-law firts before doing it so you'll not hurt their feelings. This way, maybe they can help you make your party even more fun and memorable one to everyone but most especially to your son. Having three different parties now a days is not practical, better save the money for your son's future.

He is your son, not theirs. You only get this one chance to have YOUR son's first birthday party. So you should do what you want, not what they want. And, why can't both of them come to your party? As for how to tell them no, simply say hey, he is my son and I want to be the one to plan the party. But you are welcome to attend!

all you have to do is tell them both poltely "thankyou for the suggestion, but i have made my own plans" and stick to your plans, they can come to your home if your having the party there, or if you are taking him out somewhere, then have them join you...stick to what you have planned and have them come to you....it's nice of them to offer to have the parties at their homes, but he's your child, so you decide...by the way, happy 1st birthday to the little one....he is a sweet little boy....i take it that he's the one in your avatar?