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Life is for LOVE. But she took it a bit differently. Kindly help me to answer. email this discussion to a friend?

myLot reputation of 81/100. shriniketsarkar (269)   ranked 2,237 out of 38,396 in life1 year ago

HI guys well i felt that until a person reaches his puberty level in life he is really unknown of love. But after this period i guess every individual understands love. But is life all about love? I mean is it not necessary that we must understand other stuff along with love? I have a friend, she thinks that she loves me. Well she is a bit uncertain about her decisions always hence she has a habit of asking me for help in her decisions.And this time she caught me in trouble by asking me to help her in deciding whether she loves me or not. Ha ha ha i felt like laughing that time but i fortunately controlled my emotions. Because the thing is that asking for things which are other than love for help is ok. For such decisions to be taken we can consult someone but in terms of LOVE? And that too LOVE towards me. Can any of you suggest me what should i reply to her?I mean i am confused cos i dont have any such feelings towards her. I felt that she is a lot childish in asking this as she is nearly of my age.

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 81/100. klaudine (2191)   ranked 3,224 out of 38,396 in life   1 year ago

LOL. I don't want to be rude, but sorry, I have to laugh when I read that. I am so sorry. I think if she doesn't know whether she loves you or not, how could you help her finding out that? And I mean, that's not even a question you would say to people that you consider as a friend. I think she had a crush on you, she likes you probably, and I think it is time for her to decide whether she likes you as a friend or other. I know this is confusing, but later on, whatever decision she takes you should be able to respect it.


myLot reputation of 81/100. shriniketsarkar (269)   ranked 2,237 out of 38,396 in life  1 year ago

Well nothing to be rude in that but even i had felt like laughing but fortunately i controlled my laughter or else she would have got angry.Now you see how can i respect any decision taken by her. Shouldnt she think of me i mean whether i love her or not.But still i really wonder what girls can think of .I me it was strange to here that question. And now i am in a fix as to what to answer for her question.Lets see i guess time will get something in my head to answer.I hope i dont hurt her as i dont want to hurt her.

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2. myLot reputation of 91/100. rocketj1 (2211)   ranked 788 out of 38,396 in life   1 year ago

Tell her that love has to be reciprocated to truly be romantic love. In other words, she may have strong feelings towards you, but since you do not share those feelings, it is not truly love. Love is something that is shared by two people, not just felt by one person. Love is a commitment with actual common ground, not just feelings for someone who does not reciprocate those feelings.


myLot reputation of 81/100. shriniketsarkar (269)   ranked 2,237 out of 38,396 in life  1 year ago

Ya i got what you said but the thing is how am i supposed to tell her ...You see she is my good friend an i have never hurted any of my friends. I fear she would get hurt if i tell her directly. hence i am in a fix in finding a way to let her know that its not the same on both sides.


myLot reputation of 91/100. rocketj1 (2211)   ranked 788 out of 38,396 in life  1 year ago

She seems to find no trouble in telling you these things about loving you. You should find no trouble in standing up for yourself. Take courage and do it! The longer you wait, the harder it will be.


myLot reputation of 81/100. shriniketsarkar (269)   ranked 2,237 out of 38,396 in life  1 year ago

Ok thanks .I hope it doesnt create much trouble.Thanks for sharing.

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3. myLot reputation of 95/100. tamarafireheart (12573)   ranked 395 out of 38,396 in life   1 year ago

Hi shriniketsarkar,



You are both so young, but if you do not feel anything towards this girl, then tell and let her go, as for love, there are so many different kinds of love in this world and we cannot really live without some kind of love or other.


Tamara


myLot reputation of 81/100. shriniketsarkar (269)   ranked 2,237 out of 38,396 in life  1 year ago

Ya i can understand that but i just dont want to hurt any of my friend. Hence i am in a fix thinking how to let her know that the feelings are not the same on both ends. She is my good friend.

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4. myLot reputation of 84/100. kenzie45230 (2467)   ranked 1,366 out of 38,396 in life   1 year ago

First, I don't think that just reaching puberty means anyone knows what love is or is all about. Frankly, I think it takes years of being married before most couples fully understand love.

But as for your friend, rather than laughing, I think you should consider that she really knows what she feels for you. What she's trying to find out is how you feel about her. Having you analyze the thing is very smart on her part. That's what guys (supposedly) do best - analyze. Perhaps she's thinking that as you make a numbered list, you'll discover that you have feelings for her as well.


myLot reputation of 81/100. shriniketsarkar (269)   ranked 2,237 out of 38,396 in life  1 year ago

Well what more can i say now you have put me in some more trouble because now i have to rething whether what she really demands is what i feel too or not.I am a guy who thinks a lot before saying and getting to a conclusion .But in this case i find myself in an unknown territory as i got no experience. But still i guess i must think of something to get whats hidden in my mind. THanks you got me to think again .I hope something positive will surely come out for her and it will be in best interests of both.Thanks for sharing.

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5. myLot reputation of 92/100. ChloeStrawberry (201)   ranked 10,314 out of 38,396 in life   1 year ago

That's funny and pretty stupid thing to do. Ask you to help her figure it out about her feelings for you? Are you sure you are not missing out on the details my friend?
If you are really considering her as your friend, no matter what the consequences are, tell her upfront that you don't have feelings for her and that's the kind and only way to do it.


myLot reputation of 81/100. shriniketsarkar (269)   ranked 2,237 out of 38,396 in life  1 year ago

Well about stupidity i feel every human being is stupid but surely she had the courage to separate to personalities 1. She being my friends 2. that she loves me.
She asked me this consider me as a friend and segregating herself from the other half of the feeling. I feel she rather than being stupid is a girls who can have control over her personalities.Well about telling her i am going to tell her soon .But i wish some good way to tell her comes up in my head. Thanks for sharing.

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