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bbydollz (87)   ranked 1,015 out of 14,906 in parenting1 year ago

My daughter is 2 and a half and she was completely potty trained. Then about a little over a month ago I had a baby boy. When I brought him home, she started acting out and peeing on the floor and pooping in her pants when she knew she was doing it. Is this normal? She will tell me she has to go and then I rush her to the bathroom just to see that she has done it in her pants, or she will look right at me and pee on the floor with a smile on her face. What should I do? I am going out of my mind trying to clean up after her and I just don't know what to do. Can someone shed some light on this please?

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 97/100. lynnemg (3570)   ranked 2,186 out of 14,906 in parenting   1 year ago

This is very normal. She sees that the new baby requires attention from you that she is used to getting herself. The only way she has found to gain attention from you is to mess herself. My oldest son did this when his little brother was born. At frist, I was upset and felt quite overwhelmed. My mother told me to ask him to do litle things to help take care of the baby, and tell him how big he is each time he helps. Make special time for him when the baby is sleeping, and tell him that big boys use the potty. It took a little while, but it really did help. He felt like a proud big helper of a brother rather than a kid whose mommy's attention was being taken by someone else.

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2. myLot reputation of 79/100. jonesy123 (3254)   ranked 1,680 out of 14,906 in parenting   1 year ago

She definitely seems to be adjusting badly to having to share your attention with her little brother. I'm not sure what you did to ease the transition beforehand and to get her involved in what is going on with the pregnancy and selecting stuff for the baby. She seems to think you are not paying enough attention to her and this way she gets attention. Jealousy, vying for your attention, feeling left out, all that is a major part in this.

While it is generally normal for kids to revert a bit to 'outgrown' habits and behave younger than they really are, this seems to go a bit too far, especially since she is grinning in your face. Basically, you need to reassure her that she is still very much important to you. Make special time for her. Give her some extra TLC. Also make sure to involve her in taking care of her brother. That can be picking out the diaper he gets to wear, the clothes, bringing you things to help you out, anything to make her feel valued but also showing her big sister responsibilities. Little girls love that kind of stuff.

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3. myLot reputation of 96/100. faln_angel1205 (1044)   ranked 1,121 out of 14,906 in parenting   1 year ago

Very common, with a new sibling. This also could happen with any big change in their normal daily routine...for example, starting a new daycare, starting preschool, moving to a new home...just about anything that changes their normal comfort zone, can set this off...in my family i have seen it happen with cousins of mine that were trained for as long as a year, and then something big happens and they would regress. The bright side is, it will get better, and as soon as the can get more comfortable with the change, she should go back to going on her own. We read up on this forever the first time it happened with one of my nieces and the suggestions were to handle it the way you did the first time you trained him/her, changing techniques will only take longer to get things back to norm. I knwo it has to be tough to clean up after her with a new baby, but you will get through this...i promise. good luck

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4. myLot reputation of 89/100. janeives43 (980)   ranked 720 out of 14,906 in parenting   1 year ago

Your little girl has a case of sibling rivalry. She resents the extra time that her new baby brother is taking from her, and she is successfully managing to recapture your attention. This is pretty common with little ones her age. I know you're feeling overwhelmed with the new baby, but focusing on your daughter's lapses in a negative way might make the situation worse.

Try to get her to help you with the new baby. Ask her to get you an article you need for him, whatever; and praise her when she does. Let her know what a big girl she is and how much you appreciate having her around to help you. She will outgrow this, it's just a phase!

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5. myLot reputation of 88/100. dustinnikki (192)   ranked 2,310 out of 14,906 in parenting   1 year ago

This is very normal. I wouldn't worry about it. After a while she will get used to it. She used to be the baby not long ago and now she has a baby brother. This is normal because she wants the same attention that her brother is getting. She probably also feels that she is being left out and could be a rebelious phase since she has a smile on her face when she does it.

Just keep reasuring her that she will always be her baby but that she is a big girl and that she is a big sister now. One thing that will probably help is let her help you with simple things. Asking her to get a diaper for you, throw a diaper away, getting a blanky for her baby brother, etc. Believe me, these simple things work. We went through the same thing. It's frustrating but it dodn't last long for us after our daughter figured out that she wasn't left out and could be apart of the caring for her brother even is they are in small ways. It made her feel like a big sister.

I also spent special time with her when her baby brother was napping also. It wasn't long and she was wanting to do big girl things again and not "baby stuff". Then of course you may go through another stage where she thinks she can do anything including things she's not old enough for. We can't win can we? LOL Good luck with everything!

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6. doorgesh (11)   ranked 13,308 out of 14,906 in parenting   1 year ago

its normal.she just wants attention

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7. myLot reputation of 89/100. nishdan01 (2347)   ranked 564 out of 14,906 in parenting   1 year ago

She is trying to seek attention. She must be made to understand that what she is doing is wrong. I guess she will soon stop doing that as she gets tired of it.

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8. myLot reputation of 97/100. icegermany (1580)   ranked 2,614 out of 14,906 in parenting   1 year ago

it is the most common problem with all the mothers and i too struggling with this problem. here in my place it is very severe winters and i had to also on heaters in winters and i always put my son diapers but when i had gone to my native i had trained him and he learnt it but then again i had been here and due to winter i had to again use diapers andhe is really use to, to diapers but when it was a summer here i again left him without diapers and trained him and now again it is winter and diapers again so i am really fed up as if i leave him without diapers he tells me that he wants to go to toilet but for his potty he will never tell and he does it in pant and i have to always be behind him to notice whether he is doing his potty in his pant, if i take him to toilet also when he is about to do his potty he will control himself and dont pass it in toilet and this process is still in progress and i am really worried.
and i think you should always keep asking your daughter for toilet and take her.

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9. myLot reputation of 70/100. subha12 (16454)   ranked 3,036 out of 14,906 in parenting   1 year ago

I think she is attracting attention. as the baby is new and getting your attention, she is trying to attract attention as well.it is normal as she is also little. take care

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10. myLot reputation of 97/100. ersmommy1 (10418)   ranked 262 out of 14,906 in parenting   1 year ago

It is normal. She has been an only. And your baby. She wants reassurance that she is still the baby. It is a phase, and she will out grow it. My hope is that I won't have to go through the same thing. My daughter is 5. We will be having a baby in December. Good luck and hang in there!thumbup

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