would you be offended if..

she still didnt remember me like a year after so i would think she would have gotten some of it back or at least me the only affected part.. lol

i can let go it just bugs me that i was always wondering if i over reacted to being upset about being forgotten.. we had both just moved back near each other so we were trying to get our friendship back to how it used to be before all the moves but of course we were different people but we still tried.. one reason why i didnt really care after the other things happen to continue it because it felt like it was too much work to make it work but still if she was trying to push me away she wouldnt have made plans with me a lot and then see me and ditch me 5 minutes later.. just seemed that her not remembering me at the accident just made things much worse.. i just couldnt understand why i would be the only forgotten one in the group.. twice.. oh well the drama of her is out of my life.. i just hate to wonder if i was over emo even though it was awhile afterwards and several things later before i ended it because i was thinking i was just being silly about it

nope no one noticed her being different or having any problems in her memory other than me.. it seemed like it kicked off her treating me like crap later.. i dunno if she thought i never saw her and that i never cared when in fact i drove an hour under pain meds (really shouldnt have driven but i was crying and worried about her so i wasnt thinking straight) to get there then to just be unappreciated.. and when i was there she was talking about our child hood memories and stuff so i just didnt get it.. and with the surgery being a week or more afterwards she should have been able to remember me then.. ugh.. i dont know.. i dont know why i care.. yeah i do.. im too caring and too curious.. it will be my downfall!!

Well, it would hurt.
She was your friend and than to be treated that way would hurt anyone.

yeah im better off with out her.. there was a lot of baggage in our friendship but it was like a friendship i had had all my life so i figured i would always have it and when we moved near each other again it would go back to being close like before.. then the accident happen and then she pulled crap and other things it was very obvious it wasnt worth it.. just feels crappy to have rushed to her side as soon as i heard and then take off of work and do all kinds of things to be there with her and then later be treated like i didnt even care.

That is crappy and very wrong for her
to do you like that. Friendship sure
isn't how it used to be.

after that whole incident there were some things she had done that made me end the friendship.. i could get past a bruised ego in feeling forgotten but she was treating my hubby unacceptable and then ditching me after making plans etc was ridiculous.. i think we were just hoping that we had been friends for so long that it would just keep being good but apparently time changed us both a lot.. she didnt approve of the new me and she had turned into a person i didnt like.. but before the accident we had just gotten back to living near each other so i figured 5 years apart would take time to readjust but i dunno..

yeah.. i dont believe in keeping friendships that just end up being toxic which is why i ended it with her.. but i try and make sure i try though.. i just was wondering if i was crazy in being upset about it (being forgotten) i cherish my friends and i can never understand why some people that i had as friends just end up hurting me since it seems like i always end up with crappy experiences.. i have my hubby and best friend now and thats all i need.. and they better last forever!!

It actually is possible. I know as the same exact thing happened to me after being on morphine. Even tho I seemed coherent and for the most part, I think I was...there was one particular and very important friend that I absolutely did not recall. I was quite upset that of all people this person was not there for me. He insisted that he was and even told me of the conversations we had....still not a memory on it. He was a very very good friend and I gave him the benefit of the doubt because I knew that I had been heavily sedated and the drugs were still in my body. What I guess I don't understand is why is this person so stubborn in not believing that her friend was there and why she has so little faith in her friend. I had enough faith in my friend to realize that he probably was not lying to me and I questioned my doctor who told me that this can happen.

see that was what i was thinking too but she was always calling and wanting to get together.. then she would get a phone call and make plans 5 minutes into our visit and leave.. so it doesnt make sense if she was avoiding me to make plans and then ditch me.. shes not the type of person to be mean at all so i know she wouldnt have been doing it on purpose to hurt me.. our friendship was strained from being apart so long before the accident but after the not remembering me thing she just seemed to treat me crappy like i hadnt cared that she was in the accident.. ultimately putting up with her crap and realizing there was no going back to the good old days of our friendship i ended the friendship because it was pointless.. i know she didnt like my hubby and that i got married young and i know she didnt like that i left the church so maybe those things and then what ever the hell happened with forgetting me just added up to her being weird..

i totally dont get along with her friends which i think it one problem between us..

That is really too bad. With a friend like that who needs enemies. I think you are better off without her. And just think of it as her loss.
Take care, Keep smiling,
Trish

she wasnt on anything and when she had surgery it was a week or so later and i saw her before she got medicated so even if it was shock i would think the week later would help her remember me at least that visit.. i had originally thought it was shock too but then after it happening again i was like wtF?!?!

im not a clingy person though.. we didnt see each other as much as we had wanted so i dont see it being that.. it was just bizarre