Do you give up if not encouraged?

United States
November 9, 2008 7:08pm CST
My husband and I have been working on our marriage for the last few months. We used to have a lot of problems due to too much stress in our lives, and not enough communication. Things have definitly come a long way, and we're doing so much better, but every now and then we take a small step backwards. We were discussing this the other night and discovered that when we make plans to change something about ourselves, but see no change or even acknowledgment from the other, we give up and resort back to our old ways. I'm wondering if this is a common thing. If your changes aren't acknowledged, will you give up? How do you force yourself to continue even if nobody is noticing your changes?
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Savvynlady
@Savvynlady (3684)
• United States
10 Nov 08
It is easy to give up when things around you just doesn't look good. Right now, I don't work, but I do my level best to check for jobs, go online, hit the streets for any leads and what not. I even got denied for unemployment, and I was sorely tempted to take the word of the employer and not appeal, but the deep passionate part within me would not allow that to happen no matter what and I appealed it because I felt that I wasn't wrong and they just took that to say I didn't want to work. Not true. There are times when it seems as though if you keep on, nothing good will happen. Not so, that is the time when you have to dig deep, ask God to sustain you through this and keep on keeping on. I advise you to do the same. I see folks who give up on stuff so easy. We got families who have gone before us, and they went through wars, depression, good times, bad times, sometimes the very worse of times. But for some reason, they keep on moving on with life. A friend of mine told me some time ago that God always seem to come through for you but usually it is five minutes after you give up when he is ready to make a breakthrough for you. I don't know your persuasion religiously, but if you want that marriage to work, keep on talking and start to praying, it will work out. Seems as though ya'll made it through the hard times, and now you want some encouragement, well, let me give it to you, keep on keeping on. Pray, read your bible, and don't drop them communication lines. Let your hubby know what's on your mind and things will get better. I wish you well.