What would you do?
By Thumper11
@Thumper11 (662)
United States
December 2, 2008 11:37pm CST
I am a little confused. I'm not sure how I should feel about this. My ex... who beat me up, wrecked my car, mooched off of me for about 7 months.... cheated on me.... let his brat ruin my things... and numerous other things, has gotten on his feet. Well good for him! He has his own... successful tattoo business now.... I am happy for him and the fact that since I did kick him out and file an epo on him that he is not living on the streets anymore and I know that he has child support to pay, but I am upset because he has know at least where I worked at for the last few months. He knows my mailing address..... I'm upset that he has not even made the effort to send me even $5 to help fix my car that he wrecked. Even if he don't feel like he owes me that money... how about a little reimbursement for the tattoo needles and ink that I bought out of my paycheck for him to start tattooing.... or the furniture that was my grandma's and can never be replaced that his brat ruined? Do I not deserve something? I took him in when no one else would.... I think I deserve something for that... Am I wrong? I found his myspace and it is his personal account and business account I thought about sending him a comment but I don't really want him to know where I live or anything like that, I could use the money, even the thought would be nice. I mean he could write a letter, which he has told me he has done a lot... make an offer to send a little. I am on food stamps and unemployment.... my boyfriend just had to have surgery and it has put a large financial strain on us. It would be nice to at least have the offer. You know.... $10 here and there would help. There is more that needs to be done to my car to keep it functional and I can't even come up with the money to change my oil. This is pathetic. I don't want to beg him. I know that he can find my myspace just as easily as I found him and I don't want him to know how badly that I am struggling. I don't want to give him the satisfaction of knowing that. I don't want him to know anything about me other than I am happy without him and I love my boyfriend now. It would just be nice to be thought of on this and since he did put me in so much of these financial situations.... by charging up these bills, or letting his sister... or letting his kid..... It would be nice since he helped me get in this if he would at least offer some help out of it. What would you all do if you were in my situation? How would you feel? I just need some answers.
3 responses
@islandrose (686)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
If wrong doings are still fresh, evidence can easily be presented, I will ask to subpoena him, accuse him so that he can pay me the damages he had created. About our relationship, I won't have a second thought of leaving him behind. Great! You have a new relationship who can assist you, so forget the bad guy. Make it a bad dream that you had encountered him in your life. Don't expect something from him because he is through of you. He will not miss you. If you will meet again, he will give miseries again because that is his personality. Get rid of him!
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@Thumper11 (662)
• United States
4 Dec 08
I wish it were just a bad dream.... This is what I am trying to do. I am with a different guy. I had been with him for 3 and a half years... we had a fight, broke up.... then I ended up with numb nutts! I love my guy now. He treats me great and I am trying to move on and put all of this behind me. My guy's dad is a mechanic and the one who has been fixing the car. It would just be nice to beable to pay his parents back quicker. They have been wonderful. They have taken me in and given me a place to stay and a warm bed to sleep in. My food stamps help with the groceries, but it would be nice to be able to give a little money to the cause..... I guess I just feel hurt and still in shock. I'm just not sure what to do and I really don't know if I should say something, even though I feel like it.
@islandrose (686)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
Thank you for choosing my response! Allow to time to heal the wound, and when you feel you are back to your senses, it is easy to see things clearly and react accordingly. I wish you luck in your adventure with life!
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@celticrogue (450)
• United States
3 Dec 08
You should not be confused about being taken advantage of. If it was me, I would be going by the old adage: Don't get mad, get even.
I would round up all the hard evidence of your wrecked car (and the cost of repair), of the ruined grandma's furniture (and appraisal of value before being used), of the cost of his tattoo equipment - such as receipts that showed that you paid for it, and take it all to your local small claims court and let the judge determine if he owes you anything and the amount that would be owed. Also, evidence that he and his son lived with you for the seven months. You could also provide evidence of the beatings. The cheating, I would leave alone unless you can document it and show how you had suffered because of it.
If for nothing else, let this be a lesson learned.
Good Luck, young lady.
@Thumper11 (662)
• United States
4 Dec 08
Maybe I made this sound different than I feel... I don't expect it from him, but it would be nice for the offer. I fully expected exactly what he has done, which is not a d*** thing. I knew how he was after it was too late. But he tried to convince me that he changed.... I doubted... but this was a chance for him to prove it and he just proved that I was right. Thanks for the response.
