My friend left a website because someone was nasty

I think your friend should have complained to the website owner rather than just leaving. I hate to see someone act like that toward another. Your friend has the right to his opinions just as the other person does. People seem not to respect others like people used to do. And that is sad.

yes I have. It went so far and continued for so long that I left the site. I felt it was not possible for me to support a site where the admin let people talk to eachother in such a nasty way. The admin joined in as well. Even though the site was very important to me, and i have lots of friends there, I felt it important to take a stand and not be party to the kind of behaviour

Well... this isn't uncommon on forums. It's called "Flaming" and it happens all the time. I've been visiting a certain forum since 2003, and a lot of terrible things have been said to and by me. You sometimes feel as though a certain board or forum is your "turf" after a white. You get to know the regulars and tend to share personal jokes and memes from the site, and you gang up on people when they're acting like a newb. It's not right, but it happens. It's just like real life.

Do you run and tell your mommy or your boss or your teacher every time someone says something nasty to you? I call that tattling. You kind of have to let it slide off of you like water from a duck.

I think your friend should be more mature to shrug of such silly comments. What will happen if someone says this word in real at your place of work? Will he leave his job because a person calls him a fool. I do think that he has to be more tough in such situations and not let such people influence his life.

I've felt annoyed but I didn't leave. Those people are just trolls and you either turn their game around on them or block/ignore. They aren't important enough to be upset over.

I have seen it here and I have a couple of friends that won't be back because of it. Fortunately I talk to them by E mail. I have had it once or twice but I try to ignore it. I know who my friends are and I also know that if I step out of line intentionally they will be down on me like a ton of bricks. I'd say take a weeks or so as a break and then come back. Perhaps quietly at first. He may well be surprised at how many people say how pleased they are to see him again.

Yes I left one question and answer site because the discussions became personal attacks rather than proper discussions. That's when my daughter found MyLot and recommended it. I know there are one or two on here who may make personal attacks but the majority seem to be the sort of people who just want to express their point of view and have fun. Sometimes the people running the websites aren't really bothered what's going on as long as they make money from it.

if i were your friend, i would report that nasty person to the webmaster immediately.. you know, quitting isn't a solution so the best thing he can do is to fight for his right.. don't let other people put you down..

I have had people say nasty thing to me in here, but you know what I did? I took them off of my friends list, and I never answered any more of their discussions, and when I told then I was removing them, they told me they were just kidding, but I wasn't and so they have been removed, from my friends list, they are no longer on Mylot any way.

Unfortunately, we can not monitor or control peoples behaviors. Some people are nice and some are nasty. I have experienced both in my discussions and posts over time. I have learned to shut out the nasty ones and only spend my time with the ones who are nice and worthwhile. Some of these people get their jollies by putting people down and embarasing them. If these people did not get any kind of responses to their posts they would not get that satisfaction they look for and eventually leave and go someplace else. Why on earth should your friend give up his friends, discussions and posts because someone did not like him or disagreed with him. Just blow them off and delete them from your friends list if they are even their. There is also ways to delete people from responding in some forums. I would not have given them the satisfaction to know they drove me away. I think your friend may have a little self image issue himself. There is always going to be that 10% no matter what. We just have to learn how to deal with them and let them know they will not bully or drive us away with their comments and hateful posts.