i was told i am to hard on people..

I am pretty hard on my brother too.I want him to be a better person.I think what you did was right.Your father brought you up,you should protect him.Just my opinion.

I did not find anything bad or hard in the story that You wrote here.

And defending Your father is more valuable and important, and explainable thing to do than kicking Your brothers belly. Seriously, even policemen won`t take him too seriously, because they will understand Your motives: TO PROTECT YOUR FATHER. Kicking someones belly sometimes can be a good thing to do. In this case, if there is nothing `else` behind the story. Some other likes and dislikes, and history of brother-to-brother relationships.

Usually I am kind and soft with other people, but quite often I speak straight in the eyes and tell them what they should not do or should do. And usually it takes quite long time for me to collect the reasons for this type of discussions. So, when I finally speak out- people tend to listen to me. And they know I am right. That`s all.

From what you said before and it is still going on I think you have done the right thing. It is alright for other people they don't have to live with it and keep looking after your Dad like you and your sister do, so stick with what you are doing.Your brother will soon disappear and maybe you will all get some peace and your Dad will be able to enjoy his life at last.Merry christmas .suzzy