Some Advice PLEASE!!

Oh to be in your shoes... I am very angry with my in laws at the moment. I have the opposite problem, they're just always around and I can't take it anymore! They do get my kids dollar store toys and they're awful and the kids hate it! Actually this Christmas they all got hats from their grandparents as a Christmas gift. Hats! They each already had hats in their stockings from us. I mean geez.

And I don't have any of my own family. My parents are both deceased. When they were alive they didn't come around much, but they always sent gift cards for every holiday, including hubby's!

You do need to let hubby know how you feel though. I suggest you pick a time when you're both calm and just explain it matter of factly. Don't get angry or upset about it, because that will make him defensive. If he starts to get defensive, drop it and try again another time. Make sure you start your sentances with "I feel" that way he knows your not being accusatory.

I don't blame you at all for being upset. I also could understand no gifts or visits due to finaces but to forget her grandchild's name?!?! I would ask hubby if his mom might not need to go to the doctor for a complete check up and see if there is something that can be done for her memory.

Wow if I was you I would so have flown through the roof on that. Its one thing to not send cards or gifts but omg forgetting the name of the grand child. I am sorry but to me that is unforgivable unless she is suffering from some form of memory loss or dementia. I would show your hubby how important your daughter is to his mom so important she cant remember her name. You have every right to be upset and your husband should call his mother and ask her WTF was she thinking. Then I would destroy the card so that when your daughter gets older she dont come across it think that she means less to her grandmother cause her grandmother cant even remember her name. I would be so mad if I were you omg. Just thinking about it is making me mad. Any way good luck and happy my lotting.

Awww, my heart goes out to you. How old is your hubby's mother? Well, whether it be true or not, you could tell yourself that shes getting a little senile. My own mother is, and she isn't that old. And not being in the child's life, I suppose it could happen easy enough, either way.

Does your husband communicate much with his mom? Maybe if they talked more, Angelina would become more known to her, as it were.

However, I do think that she could have taken the time to look at some old correspondence rather than just say can't remember the name.

Is it possible she is miffed about anything?


When is her birthday? maybe you could ship her some gingko biloba

OMG she must be related to my mother. My daughter is 36 and has never received a birthday card or Christmas card. I know for a fact she has sent the other grandchildren gifts of money for their birthday, so it's fair to say I know exacately how you feel. I think men just don't like to admitt their mothers are anything but perfect and the old say goes if he treats his mother good and with respect he'll be good to his wife as well. Hope that applies to you my friend. Take Care.

oh to be honest i hate guys who just side their mothers even if they do wrong. i just think they are panzies if you ask me. Some guys are just made that way and there is nothing you can do to change that so please dont think too muc out it and just relax. take care.

That is really sad and I am so sorry. You have such a beautiful daughter, I can't understand how her own grandma doesn't care to get to know her. Maybe you can bring it up by asking your hubby if his mom is loosing her memory. Then explain how you feel about the way she signed the card.

My son's grandma (hubby's mom) is a lot the same way. She has never sent my son (her grandson) a card or present for any occasion. He is now 17 and just saw her for the first time in 12 years. Now he doesn't care to know her. My mom is very close to my son even though she moved 1,200 miles from him last year. It is really sad, but I think it's their loss.

You need to tread lightly on this one with your husband. Especially since he's so close with his mom. Some parents are just really out of touch with their kid's and their families once they get married. My mother in-law is the same way. Unfortunately one day she's going to wake up and regret not paying more attention. Sounds to me like maybe she is a little jealous of you (for marrying her son)? Just a guess though.

My inlaws are not very good grandparents to my girls either. I am fortunate though in that hubby completely agrees with me and doesn't go out of his way to make his mother happy. She makes an hour drive one way every weekend to see her daughters kids but only sees ours on some holidays adn if we invite them to lunch or something. Never just a phone call or dropping by. They do this though because they don't like me. The way I have always looked at it is, my girls are better off without their selfish influence. I have enough to worry about with them in the world of bad influences and if there is one less bad apple to worry about, well then they are lucky. Another reason they have is that we are from different religions and their son left their religion to join me and that is how we raise our girls. They think we are bad. So again, I consider us lucky not to have to deal with them on a regular basis. My husband has told her that if she can't be nice to me then he will side with me and we will just live our lives without them for the majority of time. It works. He isn't upset at all about not seeing them much. In face, I am the one that is more upset by the situation and that is just becuase when she is around she is mean to me. She got my girls stuff that I have repeatedly asked her not to buy for them this year. She got my hubby this expensive tool and me a box of glad disposable tupperware. So I know how you feel. Just consider Angelina a very lucky girl to not have to deal with the drama that she could and inevitably would bring into your lives. She has enough love from her parents and yours and doesn't need any stuffy old hags ruining it!

Hey girl I'm so sorry to hear about this what happened to yeah i understand the part with finaces, but her forgetting your babys name now thats just messed up hang in there girl things will get better God s on your side