Potty training

no some people really make me wonder how they got their jobs. that is very bad advice coming from this so called doctor. just like those that say let your children cry, and ignore them. you can't just let the kid go on their own the right way whenever they feel like it. she's the parent, and she needs to teach them the right way of doing things. 6 years old and not potty trained? that is crazy. here she could have her kids taken away for neglect. too many people follow crazy advice just because it comes from someone with an important title like "doctor" people should use common sense.

While I agree that punishing a child for not using the toilet is a bad idea and causes MUCH more harm than good...something is wrong with either your friend or her child if the child is 6 years old - school age - and is not toilet trained yet.
I'm not saying that your friend is a bad parent, because God knows potty training can be difficult, and obviously I don't know what she's tried, but it's possible that she ISN'T being consistent enough.
Barring some misstep on your friend's part, there could be something wrong with the child, either physically or developmentally. I'm surprised the doctor isn't checking into that. I mean, a normal child is completely toilet trained by the time they start school, so this is abnormal and should be checked into. Your friend should perhaps seek a second opinion.

I can't believe it that the child is 6 years old and not potty trained. My children had been potty trained for a long time before they started school. I didn't have a hard time with my children at all.

Is the boy not potty trained at all?
or does he just have nighttime problems?
6 is certainly old enough to be potty trained
most kids are daytime trained by age 4, 5 at the latest
most schools have a requirement that children that age be toilet trained
Does the boy not go to school? Does he not have friends his own age?
Surely if he is around other kids he would want to be toilet trained
I could see him having a nighttime problem, there is nothing wrong with that
I have a 8 1/2 year old that still has nighttime accidents but the doctor says he is fine and that some kids just have problems and he will grow out of it
I dont want to be so quick to blame the mother BUT I cant help but think that she isnt doing everything she could/should as a mother

6 years old is kind of to old to wear dipers.

I am potty training right now, but the problem is, I am not in my own home, and where i am living would perfer to not have any accidents on the carpet!! lol. So i have been using pullups and the potty is in the bathroom, she goes on it often, but is also still peeing int he pull ups, She only goes in the potty when i ask her and con her into it. . I dont believe in punishing her for not using it either, but i try to encourage as much as possible. . We have started to have underwear time in the kitchen, she will wear just underwear for a while in the day and we do things in the kitchen like crafts and colouring on the floor. I wish it was as easy for me as it was for you;)

My son is turning 3 next week and he's still in the early stages of potty training. But, he told his older sister he needed to go today while they were walking in the desert. I'm so proud of him. But, it's based on the child's readiness. However, at 6...come on. If the mother is being neglectful, then the doctor would have realized it.

*Pleiades

I think that people should mind their own business. Each child is potty trained when it is right for each individual child. The very first thing that has to happen is a child has to realize when they have pressure on their bladder it means they need to go to the bathroom and each child learns this at a different age. I allowed my son to potty train himself and all three of my grandkids my son didn't push them. He let nature take it's course. My oldest granddaughter was five and everyone was telling my son that there was something wrong. He didn't pay any attention to any of the people saying this. He just told them that she would get potty trained on her own when she was ready. That didn't mean that he didn't help with the things that would help her get potty trained. It simply meant that he didn't get excited when she wasn't potty trained when others thought she should be. You let her know she is doing just fine. She is not lazy or inconsistant and she is doing her job.

My son wasn't potty trained until he was 5. I think it's wrong to punish a child for not going potty. I tried rewards and praise and everything under the sun. I finally gave up and told him that he could tell me when he was ready to go and be a big boy with big boy underpants etc. He was ready the next day. I think it was partly because he is stubborn and wanted it to be his decision/idea. My son was very immature and a little developmentally behind other children his age. It all worked out in the end.

Hey,

Well at 6 years old you should try and teach your kids to be toilet trained. I remember that at 5 years old I used to do it all by myself. But it isn't really a big deal, unless the child is going to school lol. Happy Lotting!