Kahlil Gibran said - If you love somebody let them go...

I've used that line so many times in my life, particularly to those I wanted out of my life. Now, not that I wanted them out, I just thought at the time, it was a "test" for them, to see if they really wanted me in their lives. Several times, some people came back. How did I treat them? like the prodigal child. But, mostly it was because that person could do so much better than me. Why would someone want to hang around my life with all I've done and have? I wouldn't. I wanted that person to start his life afresh and a clean page.

But, it turns out, letting someone go is a two way street. That other person would want to be let go.

*Pleiades

Do I believe that?. Nope, it is just a color of word in philosophical life and to explain the deep frustration and lose hopes. The word "IF" is not a calculative luck in our life and does not count the present value. But, for Risks Management and Control, it is a must factor to be included in all planning subjects; the core factor in some areas of future development.

Hello, my friend.

Love is becoming a selfish action. You want to hold the person to you, when actually love should set everybody free. There is no holding somebody close to you just because you love them. Let them free, as the saying goes. Let your loved one go everyday. If they return, they are yours forever, as the saying. And it makes completely sense. I just remembered the story that my mother told me. She said she was angry at my father, before I was even born, before they were married. They lived together, and she said: "I'm going away. I'm going back to my mother's house. Goodbye.".
She said she was really upset and angry. And she left. He was sitting in the couch watching TV, when she said that. And she went to the bus stop and cried, cried, cried. She waited, but he did not go after her. Then, she went back home. Back to their house. He was still there, sitting in the couch, watching TV, just like when she left.
At first, when hearing that, I thought: "What in the hell was my father thinking?". Now you see why I think he is one of the wisest man I know.
In love life, we just have to "Let it be", as the song of the Beatles. "There will be an answer, let it be".

Respectfully,
Munhozmib.

The answer is a simple yes. He lived in the Middle East but I am not sure about his religion. He could had been influenced by the ideas that were floating around the area during his lifetime. One basic idea was what we can claim to be ours is what actually is in our hands, the clothes we have worn out, and the food and drinks we have consumed.

The people and objects we love may not meant to be ours forever. So if the person goes away then the 'ownership' has left us, to be held by someone else. It is difficut to let go but they may be better off and happier somewhere else. When we love someone we will let the person go if that will make the person happier. If we stop the person from going away, it is our selfishness that has taken control over us. It shows we care more about our feelings.

all the best,
rosdimy

Yes it is difficult. More than a year ago I had to do the very same thing you said in here. I let go when I was still in love. If you know the song by Celine Dion "I Love you, Goodbye" that will explain why I did it.

I pretended I wasn't in love anymore when I said goodbye to shield me from the pain, it did for a while but I just realized that I still love my ex. Now that my ex has found another, it kills me because I know we can never be what we were again. I am moving on though and slowly I am regaining myself.

So Yes, I let go the person I love.

Yes I do believe this is true. When it comes to the love of a partner, that person does not belong to us at all and never will. That person we love is their own person and to think otherwise is being possessive and that is not good for the relationship. We were initially attracted to our partner/spouose for who and what they are, and that is an individual. If we are going to try and change in some way it means that we do not genuinely love them at all. Why would we try and change someone we claim to love, and that includes "shackling" them to us. If they genuinely love us in return, then they will never really leave us even when we set them free.

When it comes to our children, they have never "belonged" to us at all but instead are on loan to us only. If we truly love our children we want them to grow up to become independant and responsible adults, able to think and act for themselves without needing parental approval. In most instances if we have been open and honest without children, taught them right from wrong and always assured them of our love, they will be there for the parents if really needed and circumstances permit. Certainly they might not live close to us in proximity all their life, but the close bonds can still be maintained through communication.

When we marry, we choose our partner and eventually make our own family unit if we are fortunate enough to have children. In turn our own children do the same thing or at least they have a better opportunity to do so if we do not try to keep them by our side forever.

The greatest gift a parent can give to their children is freedom. The greatest gift our children can give to us is grandchildren.

I think that is one of the most wonderful i had read. I read this lines few years back and today i feel that how true are these line. There is a another wonderful line which goes like this 'If you love someone from core of the heart, the world world conspires to make that yours'. I truly believe that if you love someone let them go, if your love has power they will come back to you. If they dont come back, belie that you never loved them so much. Love is not self hapiness but in the hapiness of whom we love.

Have a good day..keep smiling..

Happy mylotting..

yes,letting go is a complicated thing to do if you dont know how to accept.. its easy to say but really hard to put in in action.

I am undecided, sometimes i believe this is true. If you love someone let them free, if they don't come back then it was never meant to be. However sometimes love is more complex then that and I believe if you love someone that much, fight for them. Then when you have tried all you can, then i guess you can let them go from your heart.

Ya its True..
Its really difficult to leave the person U love maybe b'coz we have hope n faith in our Love n feel that they will love u in return...