Newborns

Hello there! Congratulations on your newborn baby! I do understand that you're just adjusting to the idea of being a new mom but don't be carried away by it. There's nothing wrong at all when your baby cries because normally they really do. You will be alarmed though if he cries unceasingly for an hour or so but if not, then let him cry once in a while. Good luck.

No, I could never just let my kids cry when they were newborns. When a baby cries there is a reason behind it and it shouldn't be ignored. They cry to let us know there is something wrong and they depend on us, the parents, to do for them the things that they can't do themselves, like change their diaper and feed them. And lots of love never hurts either.

i'm happy for you! congrats!

well, i've heard from some doctors that crying is a good exercise. i can't remember if its a good exercise for our heart or for our lungs. maybe, once in a while let your baby cry but not that long. at least, give him a minute to cry then go and get him. but of course, as a mother, you really don't want to see your child crying.

Congratulations on your newborn baby. I can understand how excited and grateful you are. Well, I am expecting my baby to be born next month too, it's my first baby too.

Yeah, I have heard that we shouldn't spoil the newborn baby, otherwise it's difficult for you to teach him later. Even though they are still very young, they actually do know things. If they know whenever they cry, and you'll attend them shortly, then they will always do it again, no matter whether they really need you or not. I am not sure if I can really not spoiling my child, I understand it's hard to let your baby cry, but I also don't want to spoil them, as it's not good for them too.

Happy taking care of your baby.

okay, first let me say, "Let your son cry every now and then". I, too, did the same thing with my second son and my almost three year old daughter. With my 9 year old, up until he was four, I had to lay in the bed with him until he went to sleep or he would cry for me until I came in there and gave in. My daughter, who will be three this April, still sleeps in the bed with me and has to know where I am every second of every day. I'm not saying to never pick him up, but you need to let him cry some times or you will regret it the older he gets. They do become aware of what they are doing and they also become aware at what you do when they do it. When he picks up on, "if i cry, Mommy will come" he will do it continiously from that point on. It was absolute hell the first year and a half of my daughter's life. My poor husband couldn't bond with her at all because she had to have mommy and that was it. I couldn't get a babysitter because she would scream until i picked her up. You not only have to let them cry a little, but the times you do pick them up make sure that the father is equal in that. it really makes it hard on them when you are doing everything and then when they want to, they can't because baby is to used to mommy. it will eventually strain your relationship as well if you don't get things on a schedule now and trust me you don't want a strained relationship on top of just having a baby. it's not fun, i know from experience. other than that, congratulations on your little miracle and have fun with him. it's okay to let them cry, but definitely enjoy being a mother and don't let it stress you out. God bless

Hi congrats for having a newborn now. Well that happenned to me before, my hubby said i don't need to pick him evrytime he cries just let him cry but not too much to exercise his lungs. If his buttom is nice and clean and not hungry and he cry just leave it for awhile and eventually he will stop crying.
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I know it's difficult to let a newborn cry. It seems their little voice just goes right through you. I don't think you're doing anything wrong by tending to the boy's needs - after all the crying is the only thing that he knows to do to let you know what he needs. You're not spoiling the child. However, there are also times when he needs to sleep and sometimes they need to cry themselves to sleep. My son just didn't know how to sleep on his own without exhausting himself first. So we learned that by swaddling him it would make him fall asleep which he would desperately need. We also had a 10 minute rule. If he cried for 10 minutes then we would go in and check him. If his diaper was clean and he wasn't hungry then we would try to put him to bed again. I hope this helps you and you MUST remember that your instinct is better than anything!

Whenever youhear a baby cry, you need to see what is wrong with them. That is their way of communicating that something is wrong . Whether it be a wet diaper, Being hungry, Or just not feeling well. And at 2 weeks old your baby is going to be hungry and wet quite often . So go with your motherly instincts and take care of your baby . At only 2 weeks old, you are not spoiling him, you are taking care of his needs.

Cheryl

Hey stardustw83 I don't think you can spoil a newborn. Your son was in your somach for a total of 8 or 9 months so if he would of gotten spoiled it would of been while he was inside of you. I don't think you can spoil a newborn my husband says the same thing to me that I use to pick up my baby everytime he cries and he was right because I did. I even picked up my baby when he wasn't crying I just like to snuggle with my baby. As a mother that's what we do is nurture. He is now 7 months old and he is spoiled but he is also breastfead so I blame him being spoiled because I breastfed him. I spoiled all 5 of my newborns and I don't regret it.

This is a classical debate. There seems to be two main sides and a middle. I always tended to be in the middle. I don't think it is a good idea to leave a newborn crying. Most of the time they are crying for a reason and they haven't yet learned that they can manipulate you with their cries. There is one exception to this rule (in my opinion). If your baby is crying and crying and you have tried everything and you need a break because you are getting stressed then it is okay to put the child down and go take a mommy "time out". For me this started happening when my son was about two months old (some don't count on that as a newborn). He was really fussy and colicky. Sometimes I could handle it and just cuddle him for hours while he cried and other times I had to put him down in a safe spot and go take a few minutes to myself. But that is rather a different issue then you are talking about here.

As your child gets older it is my belief that they will use their crying to manipulate you and that if you jump up and rush to them all the time it will get harder as they get older. However a two week old doesn't fall into this category. Give it a few months!

I would just tell your husband how you feel and remind him that you aren't asking him to jump up. Let him know that as a mother you feel the call when your baby cries. My son is 2 1/2 and I still have a hard time hearing him cry (even when he is throwing a temper tantrum and trying to use his cries to get what he wants). My husband has no problem with it. I think it is just the difference between moms and dads and we get a balance when we have a good family relationship with both of them!