Being happy and single....does this sound like an oxymoron?

It's true that being single doesn't always associated with being lonely and sad. But it's easy to say that "I am happy" when things may look rosy. But those rough and tough assail us, we really need somebody to share the valleys and mountains. Yet, I really admire those who stay strong being single. And I also admire those couples who stick with each other through thick and thin, happy times and sad times, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health!

HI Mimpi....

Hey thats really good,,, even i belive in what you say, its good to be single and happy,i just want to know why do these couples celebrate 1 day of love,, does that mean that they are not happy other times,and so they celebrate valentines day .. ha ha ha...

Cheers

its good to be happy, even you are single. Spend the day alone, or with friends, it doesnt matter, just go and enjoy life. Who knows you will get your lovely mate someday. Just think that people have different situations in life, some are engaged, committed but not happy like you. Spread the love even you are singles. Go and share it with your family and friends, and god and yes yourself too.
happy mylotting!!!

Happiness is a state of mind, is what i believe, which has so many influences on it. I do not believe that singles cannot be happy. Fo that matter couples too and a lot of them are unhappy. It all depends on what you want in life. If we feel that we are satisfied with the way things are presently, then what does it matter what others say. I would say, if it's by choice then live the life you want to.Only if it's by circumstances then does the question of could have and can be arise.

Yes Mimpi.Thanks for the special message. Happy Valentines day to all.

Here! Here! I am with you! Happiness is a matter of perception. It is how you perceive things that determine what you think and that will create how you feel. For example you can view being single as lonely and sad (which is a lot of rubbish) or you can view it as being happy and free and yes, you can be loved and lovable regardless of whether you are part of a couple or on your own. I used to look for relationships to make me happy and it just did not work. I had to find what made my heart sing while I was single and by the time I fell in love I had so much more to offer as a whole person instead of half a couple. Hope you have a lovely day!

Being happy and single is not an oxymoron,I believe.I feel, that if the decision to stay single[be it a man or a woman] is a matter of one's own specific choice then, obviously he/she has made the choice because the person wanted it that way.On the other hand, if this choice is forced on them on account of1]love failure2]illness3)circumstances within the family that forced the person to take such a decision4)falure of elders in the family to get a match on account of various considerations in the case of the arranged marriages in our country5}some inevitable consideration that has forced the individual to take this decision
6)health condition, then the individual may be unhappy.-it is after all a case of accident and not personal design is in't it?-i know of a particular person like this who did feel that she did not get married because there was not adequate effort at home and she was not the type to go out and make her match[if you see what I mean-the conditioned upbringing that makes a person hesitant despite being given permission at home to make her choice]and was feeling a bit lonely.
When they tried at home to get a groom for her, it was pretty late and it did not fructify.On the other hand I know an unmarried woman who feels she is much happy without a man in her life .Similarly, if it is a man and he has deliberately made this choice he can definitely be happy though single.

Hello Dear Mimpi
Yes, I agree wholeheartedly..there is something to be said for being able to enjoy Valentines Day in peace, instead of giving eachother a hard time about what you didnt get for Valentines Day..for instance the wife who is bitter because she does not get roses, or the husband who cannot bear his nagging wife..
Ah yes, peace and health can be attributed to singlehood for sure.
Then again, when a nice person comes along, it may be fun to not be single on Valentines Day. But I personally would rather be single than miserable, just for the sake of being a couple.
Candy Coloured Hugs and Kisses to you My Dear Darling Friend
xoxooxoxox I love you Mimps!

I admire how you look your being single. Yah, you got the point. Being single doesn't mean you should be sad. You, too can be happy in this Day of the Hearts. You inspired a lot of single out there. Including a married one like me. Thanks.

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY TO YOU.it certainely is a myth that one cant be happy,if one is not married.being married does have its advantages,being single also has its own.i would not trade my place with anyone else in the world nor would you.(as you are happy)and i am happy for you.

I have been married (more than once) and had a number of boyfriends over the years. It took me awhile but, I KNOW I am much happier without a partner than with one. Some of us are too independent (some would say selfish) to give up what we want, for the sake of being what a partner wants us to be. Truthfully, I don't want to have someone to answer to, someone who I need to ring if I decide on the spur of the moment to do something else, someone to explain my spending to, someone that will question why I am talking to a man they may feel threatened by. I like being my own boss, making choices without having to consult someone else. I am lucky in that I have my kids and we (usually) operate like a well-oiled machine. A relationship involves too many compromises for me. Very happily single over here. Yes, it DOES annoy me sometimes when someone says that "the right man" will come along. Not all of us want or need a partner.