Are you a Yes Man?
By sweetyethot
@sweetyethot (1737)
China
February 24, 2009 6:11am CST
One of my girl friends who is not very close asked me to buy a dancing blanket for her from Amason __ She will pay me later.I told her that its easy to purchase online and she can choose cash on delivery.But she insisted that I should do it for her and she took it for granted.Honestly,I dont wanna do it at all.I always think that we shouldnt bother others if we can handle ourselves.Purchasing online from Amason is definitely what she can handle.By the way,she is 3 years younger than me and she teaches in a primary school.I said NO to her and she seems very unhappy,so Im a little upset about it.Just now,I watched the movie Yes Man.The man in the movie says YES to everything sometimes not sincerely ,hoping it'll bring him good coz his life was a mess before he becomes a Yes Man.His life gets better at first but he is in trouble later because of being a Yes Man without sincerity.Im now not regretting saying NO to my girl friend coz Im just me.
I won't be happy if I say Yes and that also wont help our friendship in the long run.What do you think?Do you often do others'favors?Are you a Yes Man?Thanks for reading and responding.Have a great day!
I won't be happy if I say Yes and that also wont help our friendship in the long run.What do you think?Do you often do others'favors?Are you a Yes Man?Thanks for reading and responding.Have a great day!3 responses
@ankit_620 (496)
• India
27 Feb 09
No i am not a yes man. Some people say that being a yes man keeps you going good ...what all happens it happens for good and when we encounter any trouble then also it is said that there will be some good in it. But the truth is that being a YES MAN ends up ruining ourselves...then we could just see ourselves standing there in a mess chained because we were being a yes man. So for all those who believe in being a yes man ...i say beware because saying yes sometimes bring good for you but not always. We all should have the heart to say no.
@sweetyethot (1737)
• China
27 Feb 09
Hi,ankit_620,you got a point here.Be always sincere to yourself.Thanks for your responding.Have a good day!
@fino1982 (55)
• China
27 Feb 09
It is difficult to refuse a friend. If it is easy for us to help one who is in trouble ,I will be willing to lend a hand. Howerer, if it is beyond my ability or it cost me too much, I will considerit and say "no "to the friend. The resons are as follows. First, if it is impossible for me to do it well, but I accept her/his request, it ont only makes thinhs worse, but also spoil the friendship. Second, if I can help her/him,but I will do a lot of things to give help ,I will feel uncomfortable. In this case, we should learn to say "no".
@sweetyethot (1737)
• China
27 Feb 09
She cant take NO for an answer.It seems that NO hurts her feeling.
She should learn to not rely too much on others.I mean we all should do what we can by ourselves.Thanks for responding.Have a great day!
She should learn to not rely too much on others.I mean we all should do what we can by ourselves.Thanks for responding.Have a great day! @AMOORA04 (115)
• United States
24 Feb 09
I would do it. I have been put in a lot of situations in the past that have caused problems because of money. I would say that if this person changes her mind you are now out whatever because of this blanket. Or at least get the money before you buy it. And of course she may not want to give you the money first because she isn't sure if you will buy it. I think it is safer for you not to be get into this. If any problems happen between you and your girl friend's friend then it could cause problems between you and your girl friend. Anyways, the safest thing is not to get in it. I am not a yes man(women) I do say yes when I think I can do it but I will say no when I have to. :-D I hope this helps.
@sweetyethot (1737)
• China
26 Feb 09
Thanks for your advice,my friend.I'll do what I want. Have a great day!
Have a great day!