potty training question

Hi jessi,
You need to tell him that there are no more diapers or pull-ups
during the day. I had to tell my daughter that. It did help a lot.
Hide them in your room if you have to and if you have to use them at night
that is ok. It is the only thing that kids really do have control over and
they know it. I hope that helps. It worked for both of my daughter's.
Tell him that you will take him out for ice cream or something if
he can go all week without needing them.
Good luck to you.

Well try promising something if he makes in the potty at home to give him an incentive. Well maybe at home he feels that he can make any where he wants and at school he cannot because he will be punished by the teacher. I remember my child who used to pee and poo around the house and still she sometimes do it at home. She is three now and she tells me when she needs but sometimes she holds it until she makes in her panty.

My daughter spent a really long time just weeing/peeing in the potty, but not pooing/pooping. So when she told us she wanted to poo, we always had to quickly find a nappy/diaper, and get it on her before she did it in her knickers/pants. (Lol, we really do use a lot of different language when it comes to potty training!! I hope my bilingual writing doesn't detract from the story.. )

Anyway, this went on for months and months and we were getting fed up with it, but no amount of encouragement made a difference. Then finally, and for no apparent reason, we were round at my mum's and my little girl suddenly decided she wanted to poo on the potty. And then she would always do it at my mum's house, but not at our house or anywhere else. We saw this as a massive breakthrough and didn't push her any further. And then a few months after this she decided to do it at our house too. Now she's fully trained, and it was really her own decision.

I don't know why your daughter's doing something similar, or if it's to do with us being their mums; but based on what happened with us, I'd just let her decide to do it in her own time. (Of course, with us I think it also helped that we were very enthusiastic whenever she used the potty, and we also gently bribed her with treats, and promised her a bigger treat for when she did a poo on the potty! We just didn't put any real pressure on her).

How old is your son?
And does he wear the same underwear at school (the ones he won't wear at home)? Have you talked to them to see exactly what they are doing differently from you? Another thing to think about is he a home most of the time on weekends or are you guys gone a lot? From what I understand from other moms is when children are getting the hang of it, they need to be at home most if not all the time till they are comfortable. He goes at school because he is most comfortable there because he is near a potty not out and about. Plus, I am sure he sees other kids doing it and that is helpful to him. And yes, it might be partly you not be consistent with him.

I know all these things because that is what everyone tells me why my 3 year old isn't potty trained! lol

I use to beat myself up about it but someone also made a great point - you don't see a lot of 5 or 6 year olds school in diapers right? They'll do it, when they are ready.

Myself, I think it's all my fault my so isn't potty trained. We are never home on weekends and even during the week we are gone a lot. I am a nanny so he goes with him and he only goes to preschool two days a week. And yet, I am still not consistent with him. I really wish I could hire someone to potty train him the right way!

Here's what I did with my grandson. He would do fair but we were getting ready to move on to a military instillation. It had a play ground and and we let him go check it out while we were looking at the quarter. He messed his pants. He was 2 at the time. I told him if he ever wet or messed his pants again it meant no more going to the play ground. He never messed in them again My suggest is to find something he likes to do and let him know that if he wants to do it he has to wear big boy pants and if he wets or messed in them then he can't do that. Get rid of those diapers and pull ups they are a hindrance to potty training.

You need to do what the daycare is doing. They probably either put him in the underwear or they constantly take him to the potty. Potty training is hard. When there is a daycare involved you both have to do the same things. I know the daycare my son goes to they only take them before and after lunch and after nap time. The kids will ask if they want to go at other times. Find out what your day care does and try following their routine. Good luck. Boys are HARD! I think it's because they are more stubborn. (and then they are men) HEHEHE

I wouldn't say our doing anything wrong. Some kids feel more pressured at school, or day cares being in front of other kids in wet underware, even at 2 is embarassing. So for that he knows he has to keep going and going so the kids don't see him make or have an accident. Ask the teachers if they ask him every hour if he's gotta go, or if there's a group that they are potty training together. That could make a world of a difference in your method at home. Being away from you during the day and coming home to momma may just be more important to him than using the potty, kids are odd sometimes. On the weekends, tell him only big boy pants, no more diapers, keep them off of him so he don't get mixed signals. If he has an accident, don't get upset with him, and just clean it up and move on, maybe he's scared he's gonna get in trouble if he's in big boy pants at home.
Best of luck, and in time he'll get it.

I would definately completely eliminate the diapers except for nights only if he needs them. Put him in overalls or something where it's more difficult for him to take off the underwear since for some reason he doesn't like wearing them only at home.

What I see is that he's got this to control over you. It's a battle of who's the boss! Show him that your in charge- something I'm sure they do at his day care.

Plus changing underwear (even the more expensive ones) is still cheaper than buying pull-ups and diapers which can't be re-used.

He will get it in time.

Its early days, He may have a million of things to do at home and PEE is nice when its warm.

But when you change him show a little disappointment but do not yell or threat.

Make out in a nice way he is making a lot of hard work for mummy with all this washing and mummy some times just cant keep up and he may have to go to school one of these days in the wet pants as mummy just cant get all the cloths dry.

It may seem harsh, Say very little when he wets himself, but make a fuss when he goes to the potty.

Sweeties/ice cream as something special when he goes to the potty, but not all the time, and never when he wets himself.

Remember when he has a drink he may very soon after need the potty, the same as eating,

Get him to just sit on the potty and if nothing happens thats OK, tell him he was a good boy for trying, and maybe a reward. a good cuddle, or one of them special kisses, a tickle, do a little dance, so you see there are many ways to reward, they do not always need to be sweets and the like.

HICCUP/

Our son was the same way. It is still almost impossible to keep underwear on him. (He tends to go commando under his pants and we don't always know.) He is five now but, I used to take cheerios and put them in the potty like a game. If he sinks the cheerios he gets a treat of some sort.
With our son, he did great at other places and not so great at home. You are not doing anything wrong, all kids are different and will sometimes not do as well at home as they do elsewhere. My son likes to try to impress other people and just not mom and dad lol.

Kat