Daughter is gay, should she be allowed to date earlier  |
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 Ok so its not my daughter but my neighbors and the girl is 13. She says she likes girls and has no interest in boys what so ever. She dresses like one and most of the time acts like one. But my neighbor wondered if it was ok to let her start dating? Not like she can get another girl pregnant?! She originally wasnt going to let her go out (with a boy) until she was a little more mature and her mom said about when she is like 14 or 15 would have been fine. But now with the knowledge that she likes girls only is it ok for her to start dating a few years sooner?
Good question I said. I said I wasnt really sure what I personally would do because I dont. Should the rules be the same regardless of the fact that its not with boys anymore?
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1.  luvmysons (328) | 10 months ago |  This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content.
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2.  Amber4106 (471) | 10 months ago |  I don't really even consider the term "dating" at 13 years old. I don't know, that's a very opinionated subject. I think that if she wasn't going to be aloud to date until 15, then the rules should be the same. It might even be difficult for her to find another person that age that is so sure about their sexuality. She might not even be totally sure if that's what she really wants and feels. It's hard to say though. Personally, I didn't have boys on the brain at that age, and I am straight. I was too busy spending time with my friends to worry about boys. Maybe in a couple of years, she'll understand her feelings and possibly find that she is into guys even though it doesn't seem like it now.
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| callahanb78 (426) | 10 months ago | This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content. | |
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3.  inked4life (3357) | 10 months ago |  It really shouldn't make any difference in my opinion. Suppose the woman had 2 daughters, how could she have a different set of rules for each? I have an 11 year old daughter and the subject of dating has yet to arise, but when it does, all I can really do as a parent is guage how mature and responsible she is at that time and base my decisions on that.
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| 4. dodo19 (4324) | 10 months ago |  Personally, I think that the rules should still remain the same. After all, she is just like any other child. The only thing is that she's attracted to girls, and not boys. She's not really different from any other child her age, in my opinion.
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| 5. elisa812 (2843) | 10 months ago |  I feel like the rule should stay the same. I think if that's the dating rule in that household, then it shouldn't change just because of the girl's sexual preference. Even though they can't get each other pregnant or anything, they still could do plenty of other experimenting, so I think it would still be best to wait until she's mature enough for any type of dating relationship.
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| callahanb78 (426) | 10 months ago | I think the majority is pretty much the same on most of the responses. I wouldnt think the rule should be different. Maybe if she knows rule can change so fairly easy then she may use other reasons to change other rules and then that could cause a whole different issue for them. | |
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| gr8esama (825) | 10 months ago | This is very true. Give them an inch they'll take your foot. And children are quick to pick up on this. It's good of her to take her daughter's maturity into account when establishing an age that she would allow her out of the house on dates. Two girls together can still get into as much trouble as a girl and a guy, even if pregnancy isn't one of those concerns. Oh! Not to scare her, but a movie she might want to watch is Thirteen. It's a drama about two thirteen-year-old girls. They aren't lesbians, but it really gives a great point of view. The script was actually written by one of the girls who acts as a leading role in it, so it gives a direct teenage perspective. It's pretty scary, though, for a parent of a 13-year-old girl. | |
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| 8. lynnemg (3590) | 10 months ago | I don't think that the rules should be any different. What's to say that she won't start dating and then decide that she really does like boys? Then, what would happen? Would she have to stop dating at that point?
I think it is probably best that she keep the rules the same as she intended them in the first place. | |
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| sid556 (10768) | 10 months ago |  This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content.
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| 10. SomeCowgirl (8246) | 10 months ago |  Well I don't know. I think that it's a really confusing scenario because at that age she could just be confused. What if she isn't attracted to females and only thinks she is? If she goes out with someone that young later on she could be picked on for having gone out with a girl, or worse, someone could take her to be not very lady like (in other words - I don't wish to say - but I think your imagination might lead you to what I mean). Even if she goes out with a girl, I think the pressure of sexual actions would still be there and she'd still feel confused and pressured, plus like I said before, she could be going through a phase and going out with a girl could scar her. Truthfully I think the mother needs to have a talk with her daughter, not to berate her for her feelings towards girls but to be sure that the girl is certain with the feelings - then is when I would recommend making a finale decision about it.
I hope that this helps.
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