I guess he'll never get a clue!! I don't have time to raise and adult!  

well they say if you keep doin the same things then the same things will keep happen and sometimes you just half to do whats right for the kids and if your job don,t mean much to him then his kids must not mean much to him. when your kids get a little older then they will start to unstand whats goin on so just look at it as you are doin it for your kids. good luck i,m sure you will do the right thing for you and your kids.

Well, I dont REALLY know how you feel but I can imagine how you feel, so frustrated but hurt to because he is the father of your children. I would leave and see if he actually pulls through for the kids, And THEN if he does you could think of going back but as for now I think you should leave and get your situation right. you have 2 kids you definatly cannot afford to loose your job.
Do the kids stay in daycare most the time? if so then that is good you have no worry's eccept for saterdays but you coiuld also ask to work one extra day during the week and then be off on sunday...Whatever you decide I wish you the best in it Like i said i could imagine what you are feeling. I am a single mom so I know what its like....

Please don't take this the wrong way but you've had 6 years to see what this guy is all about and he's not going to change. I'm not getting down on you...I've been where you are...but you have to face the facts of life before too much damage is done to YOURS. I tried to *fix* my ex-husband, too...thought he was only immature and needed to grow up. He was younger than me, too. Well, 20+ years after I had finally had enough and kicked him out, he's still the same selfish, self absorbed person he was then.

None of us can change anyone else. Your boyfriend obviously cares more about himself and his needs than you and his own children. If not he would have a better track record of providing for his family instead of leaving it to you. He also has a drinking problem if he's drinking alone and if he's drinking often. He's NOT going to change but you and your children are in real danger of suffering significant hardship if you don't take action to straighten out your life. You do not want to raise them in a state of constant drama and stress and you shouldn't have to live like that either. Get rid of this parasite and figure out a plan for your life that includes a secure job with decent pay so that you don't have to depend on anyone. If you need training, get it, but focus on your future.

Also, don't allow this guy to make your life miserable after you break up. There are laws in place to keep him away if he gives you a problem and you might want to send a strong message to him from the start that you're not going to put up with any cr@p since he drinks. Don't let him guilt you into staying in the same bad situation. You and your children deserve better.

ha, it's reminds me of my partner in different ways. thou my partner always had a job at his parents farm. i've been with him for 8 yrs now, been through high and lows. he changed more after his bro and wife split a few yrs back cause she had an affair, now his silly torment is that i'm having an affair with my work mate. he's been saying it for yrs, but depends on the mood/ tone of voice on if, it's a more serious accuastion or just playing. not nice either way.

look forward, there's people out there that can help you get away from him. so you can break up and make a clean start.

So the first thing I would ask you is what will be so different this time over the other times you broke up? I am sure you thought then that you were done with him but if so why did you go back. If it was because he all of a sudden proved he couldn't live without you and pulled on your heart strings you can better believe he will do that again.

You truly do need to move on. This man will never amount to anything and you will go right down the tube with him. What you need to do now is develop a plan of just how you are going to do this. You are right he will make it difficult but nothing worth while is easy. When it is all said and done and you are living a life that you can count on from one min. to the next you will know that you did the right thing.

Work with your parents if you have to as I am more than sure they will be very happy to help you. When your child has the kind of trouble you talk about here it is all you can do to stay out of it and some parents can't. Of course that often makes it worse. What ever you do lean on them for awhile until you get set up. Do not loose your job as that will really complicate things.

I know you really don't want to give up but it is clear that you must for your own sake. Develop that plan about how to do this and then work that plan. It will help immensely.

Get all the help you need to make this happen because if you don't he will drag you down with him. My best to you.

go on, you're on the right path! i really don't believe much on separations because these things just make everyone involved negatively affected, one way or the other, especially the kids. but this HAS gone too far. you've got to escape his clutches before he brings you under the ground. hah! i hope you all the best. take care!

Yuck. You two are just not right for each other from the sounds of it. You need your job, and he's a lazy %$#**@##.
I'd be booting him out the door if I were you. He's been violent before so I don't think it's really a good idea to leave the kids with him anyway. I mean, he may be good with him, but if he's drinking more and more you just never know what he might do when you are not around to see the damage he could cause.
Be careful, be strong, stand your ground, and above all, get out.