You are out but your love is not.

I think I would be okay with that, just because I've had it the other way around before. My ex-girlfriend had to pretend to just be my friend around my parents. And at first, around everyone. Now I'm out most places, but still my parents are not accepting and I would have to bring a girlfriend over as a "friend" still. I still remember the funniest thing though, once my girlfriend had asked me to please pretend not to be gay when we visited some family of hers. And so I told her I could do that. Then we get there and she was having a freak out that somehow I'd forget. I told her I am an expert at being in the closet. I've practically been in the closet all my life and still with my family, so I think I can handle just a bit more pretending for her. And then she laughed and it all worked out.

I don't know, all I can say is that I have a gay couple friendship and one is open about it the other has not shared it with her place of work or her church because she is afraid of being judged. they seem to handle it well.

I guess you just face them down and drag them out. Everyone needs to eventually face their fears. Maybe you can help them face them and get over it and get on with life and love. Shalom~Adoniah