If you are a stepmom did you come in the picture trying to be a mom?

I became a stepmom at a young as to a young child. At the time I was 19 had a 1 year old of my own and my husband. My stepson was only 2 years old when we finally got to be apart of his life. I didnt know what I wanted to do at that point. I was just so confused and mixed up. I have never tried nor have I ever wanted to try to take the place of his biological mother. Although not by choice I have become basicly the only mom he really knows. My husband got full residential custody in the beginning of 2007. Ever since then my stepsons mom takes advantage of it. She is supposed to visit him every weedend and my stepson is lucky he see's her for 2 of his visits. To top that off she takes him Friday after school and then by Saturday she is calling saying she can't handle him. He made the choice at 2 years old to call me mommy. To this day at nearly 6 he still calls me mommy. People on his moms side of the family say I am forcing him to do it and he doesnt want to call me mommy but in reality it's all his doing. I dont mind. I have done alot for him in the last 2 years and I'm loving every minute of it. I am still not trying to take his mothers place but I feel I have because of her own actions.

i have a stepdaughter and i think i've been a good stepmother. i have never tried to take her mothers place but i try to be there if she needs someone to talk to or if she needs advice. my stepmother and i have never really got along. she has always been kind of rude to me. part of it was because my grandmother was nice my stepsisters but didn't treat them the same as she treated me & my brothers and the stepmonster got p.o.'d about it. i think part of it is also because i am the only girl in my family so everyone kinda spoiled me and doted on me.