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myLot reputation of 70/100. astrotink (143)4 years ago

many people tell me that the guy must fancy you if they befreind you? is this true??

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 78/100. shuz697 (1030)   4 years ago

yes of corse they can... i have a heap of male friends and I know that its not a attraction thing we are real friends...


myLot reputation of 70/100. astrotink (143)  4 years ago

i have heaps of male friends too and it is them that say there is always an attraction there and I shouldn't be so nieve to think they only think of me as a friend, even though they wouldn't try anything, there is still the attraction there


jazzman1 (42)  4 years ago

I agree, I have mostly male friends and both them and I agree there is no attraction. The only people I have ever heard say that this is not possible are other women

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2. myLot reputation of 84/100. jessycardy (728)   4 years ago

This is not an easy question, and I think it doesn't have just one answer. When two people fall in love for each other they sure are attracted one another. But we can say the same for friends. Sometimes you get SO close you even dream about having sex with them, even if you're straight and your friend is the same gender as yours (it happened to me and it happens to many people). Obviously, when the two friends are opposite genders, I think it's almost impossible, if not at all, that there is some kind of attraction between the two. I think it's part of the game and it's good the way it is. Just look at the neverending list of movies or fictions where you find a couple of male/female friends and they're friends and/or work together and they end up in the same bed somehow, someway, and while you watch it you almost don't care about the rest of the story, you just hope that they end up together somehow. It's crazy, but that's the way it is.
In conclusion, I say there will always be an attraction between a man and a woman who are friends, because that happens even when the two friends are both the same gender.


myLot reputation of 70/100. astrotink (143)  4 years ago

Now that is a good answer, one one my male friends told me he quite often has dreamt about me in a sexual way!
I have male friends that I am not in the least bit attracted to though, yet my male friends do say there is always an attraction when a guy befriends a girl.


myLot reputation of 84/100. jessycardy (728)  4 years ago

Yeah, I think that happens especially with the very close friends... I had no problems telling my female friend that I dreamt about her "that way" and she told me that it's normal 'cause we're getting very, very close. But that doesn't mean I'm lesbian or bisex.:)

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3. myLot reputation of 76/100. bhuvahsya (1663)   4 years ago

Why not?????. There are a lot of platonic relationships around.


myLot reputation of 70/100. astrotink (143)  4 years ago

but there is a very fine line between love and friendship and it so often can get blurred

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4. myLot reputation of 86/100. jhannon (1247)   4 years ago

I think so!

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5. myLot reputation of 87/100. ssh123 (18249)   4 years ago

Friendship need not be for sex. There are very many things when two persons agree or agreeable. There can be mutual exchange of views, there can be help rendered and received, there can be sharing the work load etc.

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6. abhimaya2006 (8)   4 years ago

Mostly not... It just a rare occasion that this happens.

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7. myLot reputation of 87/100. ssh123 (18249)   4 years ago

Friendship need not necessarily be for sexual gratification. There are many who are friends, not attracted due to sex. Particularly those who are working in offices and factories. The nature of work at their workplace requires contact between the two and it might have resulted in friendship.

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8. celticjames (22)   4 years ago

well obviously there has to be some kind of attraction there that aloows the bond to be formed in the first place. I guess the attraction involved just isnt sexual thats all.

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9. myLot reputation of 84/100. maya_n_bennett (3679)   4 years ago

I think men can be friend with women without an attraction. I have a male friend from college. He is like my big brother to me and Im like a little sister. We dont see much but we still keep in touch. We never had relationship beyond regular friendship.

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10. myLot reputation of 79/100. alon28miami (546)   4 years ago

Yes it is definately true unless he is gay:-), if he is straight like me then usually a guy befriends a girl because he is interested in more somewhere along the line and a girl most likely knows this and actually does want him as just a friend but doesnt mind the attention she gets from her male friends but acts naive about it as if she doesnt know he is interested:-)


myLot reputation of 70/100. astrotink (143)  4 years ago

yeah see sometimes I know there is more to the friendship but i ignore it for the sake of the friendship.
my ex always said my friends fancied me when they offered to help me out or something. He said they are only after one thing, wich i find hurtful cos surely my male friends can like me as a person too!!

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