why is it that i find it very hard to say to say sorry?????

Oh trust me you are not alone in this. I for one have a very hard time saying I'm sorry. Of course whenever we fight with someone we always believe that we are in the right & maybe we are, but if takes a lot more courage to be the first one to say sorry then it is to stay mad. Unfortunately I am very stubborn & refuse to be the first one to say sorry first. My whole family is like that actually. Now with my husband I am starting to be a little different. He is a very humble man & in turn he has shown me that there is no pride lost in being the first to say sorry. So whenever we fight we both say sorry together.

SORRY was never the hardest word for me. Being a very 'well behaved' child I was always prompt with SORRYs and THANK YOUs. Now, as a grown up, i find it even more easier for that gives me an undefined strength to live. I find myself apologising even when I am not guilty. But sometimes we just make things easier for one and all by losing. We do not have to win always to really win. You can lose and still be the winner.

Thanks.

The problem here is pride. You do not feel that your place within the family is secure enough for you to make a mistake. Once you get over this you will find that I'm sorry is one of the easiest ways to patch up a relationship. But beware using this if you don't mean it, people can tell. You can be sorry because you caused someone to be upset, even if you are right. Blessings

Oh it is hard to say I'm sorry to family because then they will come out with "I told you so!" or you think they will, even if they do not intend to. That makes it difficult. It is not that I know whether I am in the wrong or I am in the right, it is the rebuff that I would get. With someone you do not know, you do not get the insults that your family may give you so it is easier that way.

I totally agree, especially if it's one of those times that you must say I'm sorry to your children! That is the hardest thing for me is to go to one of my kids and say "Mommy messed up, can you ever forgive me?"
Gratefully, I have taught my children the value of forgiveness and saying I'm sorry. They are so great about saying "It's ok"

Hi, riyasam! Because you hate to feel guilty for doing something wrong. You feel that by apologizing you will feel like the bad guy. You don't want to be looked at as a person that has done wrong. It is all about feeling guilty and looking bad..

i never have been afraid to say i am sorry for something i have said or something i did.My kids would never say i am sorry when they had done something when they were growing up.i think they thought they were right any way or i guess they weren't sorry.

Hi ya riyasam

They do say that sorry is the hardest word to say but when I was with my husband I seemed to be saying it all the time and it took me a lont time to get out of the habit of saying it too! If I think that I am in the wrong then I am the first to oppologise for something. If I really think that I am right then I now feel that no oppology is necessary!

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yeah it is same with me here-even i do find it difficult to say sorry and that too includes my boss-i think it is an ego problem with me-let me b forthright abt it.but there have been times i have said sorry to my gurl-and that has been mostly after i have made her cry. but then this one small word did go a long way in consoling her-sometimes in some situations, this word certainly has the potency to stop things frm going frm good to worse.

Not really.....I found out a long time ago that when you say your sorry and admit you are wrong that people respect you a whole lot more!!! It is sometimes harder then others....but for the most part I usually just get it over with and admit my mistake.