Who must be Punished or must have a huge punishment?

Given a situation wherein you are in a sex video with your ex or current boyfriend and it was made without your knowledge and the guy use it only for personal or private use then suddenly one day you woke up in the morning hearing news about a video scandal spreading around your country or to the world through internet, cellphones and pirated VCDs involving you, what would you do?? Then your bf or ex told you he was not the one who spread the videos and it might have been stolen by one of his friends or one of your friends who happen to be insecure or mad at both of you. What are the steps you'd be making? Who do you think must be punished more or must have punishment, the one who made the video who is the only intention is to use it for private or the one who stole the video and spreaded it???