do you want to marry a man who's just like your father?

My boyfriend is like my father in many ways and I prefer him to be like that. I had known boys before him and they were either too rude or very irresponsible so I have chosen my boyfriend to be my life partner because firstly he is so responsible toward me like my father and then he is very mature, honest and faithful like my dad. He helps me in daily works and encourages me to go in a right direction.

while my father is basically a good person... i would not wish to marry a man who is just like him. while his good traits are quite ok, it's his other traits which is unacceptable to me. he had become an alcoholic in the middle of 1980's, just when i was starting to learn things in grade school. i never bonded with him because he was always drunk. when he's sober, he's always working. if i will judge his personality by the friends he keeps, who are all drunks, i wouldn't like my own father. but whatever he is and whatever he has become, he's still my father.

i have never really learned or taken a liking to drinking alcohol, except social drinks in formal events and gatherings. i never wanted to because it was tough growing up with an alcoholic father. so i think i'd prefer to marry a guy who is not like my father.

also i learned that he cheated on my mother several times. and my sisters and i were all named after his girlfriends while already married to my mom. if there's one thing i can't foresee myself having a future with is a cheating husband. it's a no-no.

I have ever want to marry a man who's just like my father,but in the end did not do so,I have not come across such a man so far.Let me marriage has gone through a subconscious man did not want to grow up,I always wanted to take care of him everywhere,even if it was in my illness,and even after giving birth of our son...so I left home with my son.I still hope to encounter a man who's just like my father in the dream,Gary Coull,a good whole-hearted husband,a loving father.Maybe it is just a dream...

Nice Topic. If i have to answer this topic's question i do not know because i had no chance to knew more about my father. I grew up without him and my grandfather stand as my father and my stepfather too.
Thinking of male figures in my life, I'd rather say, if i can find this, i will marry a man just like my grandfather. He is a good provider, and hard working husband and father. He do not hit or shouted at my grandmother. He can keep here low voice when he is angry, and i love that because my grandmother find a way for him not to shout.(She gives a kiss and hug if he is angry, odd but sweet.) He is patience and understanding of the impulsiveness and spending of money of my grandmother. He is loving and caring to his grandchildren. I can say he is almost perfect person because he has the good traits that rare to find, and I'm doubting that i can find this man in the future. Maybe there are, but not easy to find.

Maybe i will.
I love my father than every other male in the world,coz he give too much to me and our family..
My boyfriend could be not wise & responsible & warm-hearted, but my husband shuould do....
we will find the one due to the destiny...

hello there cainam... yes i do want to find a somebody to marry...hmm... maybe not as like as my father because he is a one and only for me... but what i want is similar to him.... specially in acts.... a God fearing person, loving, good provider, sweet, thoughtful, a good friend, a husband and father to my children.... and a lot more...i think there are still a lot of words that to describe my father... well i do hope to find someone similar to him...
have a nice day ahead of you...

No because my father is different from him that I want in my life.
My father is responsible but sometimes I dont like his vices that
makes him so strict in any case. When he is drunk he used to tackle
things repeatedly that makes you irritating to hear. He is so strong
and keeping you make sermons this and that.
So I'm afraid to have this kind of activity.

Don't mind me, just adding an 'alternative' perspective;-)... (yes, I am a guy)

I don't get along too well with my father, and no, I wouldn't want to marry/date a guy who is just like him. I wouldn't date or marry any guy that looked/acted like he could be my father, for that matter.

To the original poster, the things you mentioned aren't really fatherly qualities to me, so much as just good qualities that a person should have towards their significant other.

It is often say that women fall for men the remind them of their fathers. I believe this is true. My husband reminds me of my father in many ways. For most women the first male role model they have is their father so that is what we think all men should be like. Most women are luckily to find a man who reminds them of the fathers.

no i really dont my dad had a lot of problems when i was growing up. i love him dearley and he really is a good man but i could never go threw all of that again.