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What is so bad about bad people? Is it them being bad email this discussion to a friend?

myLot reputation of 94/100. balasri (9541)   ranked 982 out of 35,448 in people7 months ago

or them refusing to change from bad to good?


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1. myLot reputation of 99/100. derek_a (5181)   ranked 1,964 out of 35,448 in people   7 months ago

If a person is bad it is because we are not comfortable with what they say or do. If they murder people, hurt people or steal from them, then we all tend to agree they are evil.

But sometimes bad can mean that they just say things others disagree with and they just have an opinion. This doesn't make them bad in themselves. It is in the eye of the beholder and nowhere else. Personally, I try not to judge, as these sort of people are not in this world to live up to my expectations, and if I am judging them as bad, it is only myself that I make uncomfortable. happy - Derek


myLot reputation of 85/100. vinslounge (856)   ranked 6,683 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

Yes derek, you are right. It all depends upon the perception of the beholder and nothing else. Whom I see bad may be a saviour to some one else. The bad thing about a bad person is they are bad according to our perceptions. Hence good or bad cannot be explained and it can be only experienced. You can judge a person but the judgement is just yours and you may not expect everything to be universally accoladed.


myLot reputation of 94/100. balasri (9541)   ranked 982 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

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myLot reputation of 99/100. derek_a (5181)   ranked 1,964 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

Thank you for the question..

OK, we are talking about serious crimes here and the criminals are better off being removed from society until they have proved beyond reasonable doubt that they won't re-offend, but I don't think many can prove that and so it continues. But to deal with the issue from a personal point of view...

An answer from my experience of Zen and spiritual discipline, is not easy to answer in a few words..

It is a known psychological fact that those who continue to judge and hate a criminal after that criminal has been punished (and maybe for example, in Jail or even dead), only hurts themselves.

In Zen it is said that we are one with all, and when we hold judgements of resentment and hatred, we are holding such feelings within our selves - within our nervous systems. The part of the self that is holding these feelings begins to suffer and grow ugly - we are hating part of ourselves and therefore hurting that part of ourself.

Often, the hurt goes so deeply that we cannot stop such judgements, but eventually, if we are willing, we can forgive, and it is forgiveness that provides a strong healing power. I don't see forgiveness as forgetting and ignoring the fact that a person may still be dangerous, I see forgiving as a way of giving self and other the healing that is needed.

I know it is not easy, and I have been faced with many situations that I have judged, but in my meditation, I have looked for ways of resolving such inner negative feelings. I have recognized the destructive power of such feelings.

The greatest spiritual teachers have taught about the healing power of forgiveness. They knew it was difficult, because it is not something that you can explain to another how to do. It is not really a state of "doing" at all, but a state of "being". And some situations are more difficult than others. I would say that forgiving begins with a willingness for forgiveness to happen. If we are not willing, we just carry on in the same state of consciousness.

My personal effort in Zen is not to judge, and especially not to judge even those who judge me. Not easy, but possible. I hope I have explained my point of view clearly enough. happy - Derek


myLot reputation of 94/100. balasri (9541)   ranked 982 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

All I can say is that it makes a wonderful reading Derek.It is so soothing.Well to be frank Derek whether a father whose daughter is raped and cut into pieces can have the same feeling I wonder.


myLot reputation of 99/100. derek_a (5181)   ranked 1,964 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

You are right. If it was my daughter who was raped and cut to pieces, I would be horrified and would want her attackers severely punished - I couldn't help but harbour such revengeful thoughts. But as a Zen practitioner, I would know that I would be harming myself even more, and until I had grown spiritually enough, would find it very hard to forgive. But through my pain, I would know that I would need to work hard towards forgiveness, or I would carry that hatred in my heart, hurting only myself. - Derek


myLot reputation of 94/100. balasri (9541)   ranked 982 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

Thanks Derek.I really like this conversation.The is always the other side of everything.I feel like going through what you said about Zen again anyway.It is time to open up to new philosophies.See you friend. happy

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2. myLot reputation of 52/100. vjsinduja (457)   ranked 11,156 out of 35,448 in people   7 months ago

I agree with derek's response


myLot reputation of 94/100. balasri (9541)   ranked 982 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

Can the vile crimes against the innocent can be considered as good if we judge them good in that case?


myLot reputation of 99/100. derek_a (5181)   ranked 1,964 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

I think what happens in the universe is beyond good and bad. The person who committed vile crimes usually does so because he thinks of them a good. Others however, think of them as bad. It is neither. If you believe in reincarnation, perhaps the victim in a past life, was very cruel and killed and tortured hundreds of people. It is now that person's lesson to learn about suffering to that he/she can become a better person. We don't know absolutely, because we are here to learn.

The universe is just the space in which things happen. The universe doesn't say this is good, or this is bad, it just allows these things to carry on.

For instance... is the lioness being bad when she allows her cubs to play with and torture another young animal, which dies a slow and agonizing death? If the cubs don't learn these hunting skills, they would die a slow and agonizing death of starvation because they haven't learned how to hunt properly. Is that wrong? Now we would have to choose which is right and which is wrong. Would we have the lions die or their prey? All physical things that live will die eventually.

This is what happens in Nature. We humans are part of Nature. But we can can reason and have created something called conscience as we've evolved. We weren't always so gentle though. And we still kill other species to survive. happy
- Derek


myLot reputation of 94/100. balasri (9541)   ranked 982 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

If the lions are evolved to the level of humans I think they will buy the food for their cubs in the supermarket and live a decent life than us. lol

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3. myLot reputation of 90/100. Beertjie (726)   ranked 856 out of 35,448 in people   7 months ago

I believe all people has the potential to be good or bad. Some choose to be good, others choose to be bad. Those who choose to be bad does it for selfish reasons. They just want to satisfy themselves and do not care what they do to others in the process. Those who choose to be good, care about others and are aware of their actions so they do not hurt others, they are unselfish.

In some cases it is easier to do bad than good but we make the choice to do the good because the outcome will be better for us and those around us. People who choose to do the bad things do not care about the outcome for others, as long as they are satisfied.

May you be blessed with only good people around you.


myLot reputation of 94/100. balasri (9541)   ranked 982 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

Those good people sure includes you Beertjie. happy

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4. myLot reputation of 78/100. mysdianait (12291)   ranked 1,252 out of 35,448 in people   7 months ago

Sadly nowadays the bad things and the bad people (or the people who do the bad things) become heroes doh They get more space on the news and get more articles in the newspaper and online. Therefore there is some myth that being bad or doing bad is actually good because that's what other people seem to be interested in sad

It is so difficult to make a person believe that whatever they are doing is wrong when those doing exactly the same thing are the ones that seem to be getting more followers, getting talked about the most and having more success so it is not even the fault of those who are bad or are doing bad but the fault of others who portray doing bad as being the best thing to do surrender


myLot reputation of 94/100. balasri (9541)   ranked 982 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

Poor bad fellows.Victims of circumstances and surroundings.

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5. myLot reputation of 99/100. writersedge (4486)   ranked 367 out of 35,448 in people   7 months ago

Probably the second one. Anyone can make a mistake or have a day when angry and do something regretable later. But someone who keeps doing bad things and won't change, that isn't the occasional mistake, that's intentional and their mind goes in that direction. Eventually it can escalate if the person refuses to change. Take care.


myLot reputation of 94/100. balasri (9541)   ranked 982 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

That is a great response Friend.Very decent and fair one.

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6. myLot reputation of 100/100. paula27661 (5569)   ranked 314 out of 35,448 in people   7 months ago

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myLot reputation of 94/100. balasri (9541)   ranked 982 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

God bless those sick people.And I know a lot of people definitely know that they are bad.There cannot be any other explanation for this behavior except that they throughly enjoy being bad.That makes them really sick.Is it not so?

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7. myLot reputation of 78/100. wonttakelong (1706)   ranked 1,390 out of 35,448 in people   7 months ago

There is no such thing as bad people
there are people who choose to do bad things but it doesnt make them bad
people have within them both good and bad
they can choose to nurture either one
most people choose to nurture the good
to further explain, lets say I were to choose to bark like a dog
would that make me a dog because i bark like one? NO!


myLot reputation of 94/100. balasri (9541)   ranked 982 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

No dear definitely not.Who else can understand you more than me who is a barking good man.Can you hear my wife's chuckle?


myLot reputation of 78/100. wonttakelong (1706)   ranked 1,390 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

I can hear her LOL

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8. myLot reputation of 97/100. Mirita (1615)   ranked 1,606 out of 35,448 in people   7 months ago

I noticed that bad people never accept responsability
for their actions,and is always somebody else's fault.
This is probably why they never think that they need
to change their wrong doings.


myLot reputation of 94/100. balasri (9541)   ranked 982 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

Yeah that is the basic fault with them.

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9. myLot reputation of 95/100. dawnald (10346)   ranked 369 out of 35,448 in people   7 months ago

I think some people (sociopaths) have their brains wired in such a way that they can't help but be bad. But for most people it's a choice and maybe also a bad habit that they've gotten themselves into and don't know how to get themselves out.


myLot reputation of 94/100. balasri (9541)   ranked 982 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

The bad people including those sociopaths are not born bad with a bad wiring up there.It is the fault of the people who bring them up and the environment they grow that makes them bad.They become so tuned to it to a level of reveling on it.Poor souls.As you say they get entangled in it without any help.

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10. myLot reputation of 96/100. alokn99 (2935)   ranked 244 out of 35,448 in people   7 months ago

We judge them as bad depending on thier nature of action which made them get categorised as bad as well as the action of them refusing to change from bad to good. Sometimes the nature of the one terrible act they commit is enough to condemn them as bad forever. There is no second chances in these instances.


myLot reputation of 94/100. balasri (9541)   ranked 982 out of 35,448 in people  7 months ago

That is where the right use of the rational mind comes in.Is it not so Alok?
Old fellow have simply put it as 'Look before you leap'. happy

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