Am I too picky? Or what?

Well I guess there is nothing wrong with the way you choose your partner and I guess you are very wise in choosing since you seem to have a a guide that you follow in finding your ideal partner. It just so happen that none meets your taste. Well I do not find anything that is wrong with you and your attitude towards them. So go on and wait for love to directyou to your man of your dreams.

One thing that you have to be aware is that there is no perfect or ideal man around. One might have defect somewhere else so do not expect everything will be in that person you like.

They say you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince. From what you are going through, it certainly seems like you should be getting closer to that prince, doesn't it? Have you considered putting person ads in various newspapers? I know quite a few people (including by brother who will be celebrating his 20th anniversary this July) who have met their princes & princesses through those ads. A lot of dating websites seem to attract casual meetings where the people you meet want to be with some one, but not necessarily interested in anything long term. At least with carefully worded personal ads you specify what you are looking for. For the men who respond, their initial letter would be geared towards convincing you that YOU are that person. You never know who is out there, equally frustrated because they haven't met you yet. Good luck.

i dont think that is being picky. we women have the right to be picky or choosy, specially if we are hurt in the past relationship. but dont be upset someone, somewhere ther is someone who is perfectly fit for you. dont try to find him for he will come. the more you look the more you end up to people you dont really like or dont get empressed at all. for now just got with the flow. enjoy going out and dont depress yourself on finding that guy. just have fun for the mean time. dont expect too much on your dates but just have fun. goodluck

No, you are not picky at all. You just want to have a really good and suitable guy for yourself and that is not wrong. It is better to wait for that one special guy than always going on dates and having bad relationships. I waited a while for the right guy for me. Now I found him and everything is going good for years now. Just be patient, even if it means a year or two. The right guy will come.

No, there's nothing wrong with you. I believe that it's the right of us women to pick the right men for us. what you did is perfectly normal. Because there are lots of women out there simply chooses a few or one and gets really disappointed in the end because they didn't choose any other options than just one guy. but am just glad you did that because you might end up choosing the wrong guy. .

Patience my dear, you will find the right man out there.. Its just that you have not met your match yet.. The harder you go looking for him, the easier it will be to lose him.. From what I have noticed about myself and other people that are looking for their soul mate; the less likely you are to find it.. Have you heard of that song lyric, "You can hurry love", well that is true.. You will find it when you least expect it.. Its like that twenty dollar bill you find when you are doing laundry.. And just the other day you were looking high and low for it.. You may be looking in all of the wrong directions and that someone may be staighting right in front of you, but you are so busy looking in every other direction you do not see him.. Good luck and one day you will find him..

Well since we are as much of a mystery to men as they are to us I think you should text him just to say hi and see how that goes. We live in a world where the man doesn't have to make the first move anymore. Even though it's not a relationship yet you can still look at it this way, You have to give as much as he does if you want it to work. For alll you know he just might be a little shy deep down and may be worried you don't like him since you have not talked to him as much as he hasn't talked to you ya know? he might be waiting on you calling him or texting him.
Good luck

Girl, we've all been there. I had actually joined a dating website several years ago, before I went to grad school. It was a nightmare! I learned within a couple of months that online dating wasn't for me.

I am pretty picky too. I found something wrong with everyone I dated. Either that or, like you, I found someone I was interested in, and they just weren't that into me.

You will find the guy for you at some point. It may not be soon, but it will happen. Just keep in mind that the perfect guy doesn't exist, and figure out what you like or can deal with from there.

The man I ended up marrying was our grant coordinator in grad school! It totally caught me off guard, because I wasn't even looking for a man then!

Just be happy, go do fun things with friends, and figure out what YOU want out of life, not taking into consideration anyone else that you may want in it. If you take steps to make you happy as an individual, the rest will eventually fall into place.

I remember meeting a girl from Detroit who married one of my friends. She remarked to me about the dating process before she finally met him: "You have to cook a hundred turkeys before you find what you want".

Nothing wrong being picky. Committing yourself to someone you don't particularly like makes no sense. Eventually you will know you've met the right person.

The best way to meet the right person for you, is to stop looking. The harder you look, the more desperate you become (or seem) and the less desireable you are.

If you just go on with your life and do the things you enjoy the most you will meet guys that are doing the same things you are doing, that you love to do. So you will find someone with things in common with you, and in a natural setting, instead of a dating setting. People lie and act phoney on dates, and you often don't find out until it is too late, what a JERK they really are. Had you only known this in the beginning, you could have not bothered to waste your time on them.

Try going out just for your own enjoyment. You don't need a man to make you complete. You have to love yourself first anyway, so just go out and enjoy life to the fullest you are able to.