could you forgive some-one no matter what......

This was exactly the question I was going to put forward for dicussion today. But you did it. Anyways as for me I don't think I can forgive a person I love for infidelity. I can forgive him for anything else but not this. If he cheats on me our relationship will be over forever. Maybe once (very slim chance) that I do forgive him but if he commits a minor mistake the second time round then he will definately be out of my life.

I may sound rude but this is what I am. I can't forgive infidelity. That is something I seriously hate.

NO, There are things in my marriage that happened i could never forgive my ex for. The marriage was over 30plus years ago but i still haven't forgiven him & I NEVER WILL. t here are some hurts that go too deep to forgive alto i know u are suppose to forgive. There are a few more on my list but i want go into those.I know u are glad

I have been on both sides of this fence. There have been 4 marriages for me, I am sad to say) and the frst 3 all cheated on me. When my current husband and I started to have problems in our first year of marriage, I cheated. The Lord decided to put an end to the affair and (long story) we have been togther now for 15 1/5 years! We are more in love now then ever before and I appreciate him totally! He has forgiven but you are right, he will never forget. I can totally accept this. I will never forget the things that have been done to me either and there is one that will not be forgiven. He couldn't keep his hands off my daughter, who was 12 at the time. God will have to deal with him! Hope this helps with what you may be going through.

I have to say I've been on both sides, been cheated on and done the cheating. When I was cheated on I was young and so in love. I thought I'd never find another person like that ever again, so I forgave and pretty much carried on, but from that point onwards, the relationship went downhill as my partner felt they could walk all over me an ddid some serious harm to me. Yet I still went back and took it, so I can understand how some people could forgive, even though outsiders see that its doing harm.

On the otherside, when I cheated, I lived with it for months without my partner at the time knowing. It was only my own guilt that made me tell her. This will probably sound very cliched but I was drunk, didnt really know what was going on and easily led. My partner understandably couldnt forgive and forget at the time and it was the end of our relationship. It was only afterwards I realised how stupid I had been and how Id ruined everything. From that point I always vowed Id never cheat again. I just couldnt put another person through that hurt. My current partner and I have discussed what we consider cheating, as she has also been cheated on and we are both quite open in the fact we dont consider a drunken kiss cheating, yet neither of us want to because we both know how much that could still hurt. So I think the forgive and forgetness depends on the person and you as an individual.

My ex and I are now good friends. She was able to forgive, but she can never forget.

Hi lamb101,



I wouldn't stay with someone who ad stab me, that is a violence realtionship and the next time some is going to be killed, no I couldn't forgive and would get out as fast as I can, that is not love.


Tamara

i'd forgive and forget anybody for anything and ill just move on, i believe time always heals the pain.

I kind of forgive my ex husband in a way fro cheating on my while we were married but I could never trust him again. That is why i divorced him a couple of years ago. I thought we were going to stay friends at least but I don't think his new wife will go for that oh well whatevr.

I wouldn't necessarily say no matter what. But I have forgiven some pretty bad things because I was in love. I mean, there is a line. Like, I wouldn't forgive them for physically hurting me in any way. But I have forgiven being cheated on, being lied to, and being humiliated for the sake of their pride. I know it's not the smartest thing to do, but like Shakespeare said, "Love is blind."

Hmmm....i still don't know yet what would be my answer...maybe it depends if i really love the guy then maybe i could forgive him anyway,there's still what we call KARMA that awaits...

For me, I think I could forgive someone for some things, but not all. You know, somethings are just hurt you so deep that you cannot recover from it for a long time, even your whole life. And even though, I try to forgive other people, because sometimes they do not mean to hurt you.