Is my world virtual?  

There's nothing like the personal touch which can never be conveyed through a typed e-mail or an e-card. A handwritten letter or note shows that the writer took the time to choose the paper, pick a pen and think about what they write rather than hitting the backspace key. Taking the time to post the letter/card gives it that final personal touch that never shows through clicking the send button. Maybe your friends have forgotten how to write?

I'm so sorry to hear this dear, now I feel really bad as last night I thought of you and of sended a message to see how you were doing but got side-tracked. I do think that many people have forgotten the personal touch. I'm greatful I do have some friends that still keep touch off line but not many.

I wish you would stop reading my mail.

Yes life seems to be like that, people who you count on seem not to be there in the time of need like you were to them.
This is not only friends but also family. You teach and show the closeness of family all the time but when needed where are they.....I have know Idea same in my case, That is why I said stop reading my mail.

Lets hope tomorrow will be a better day.

HICCUP/

People who have physical contact of at least two people a day live longer. So shake that hand and pat that back even better a warm hug or kiss. Do it for yourself.

When I retired I had been with the same company for 30 years. I never thought I would loose contact with them but I have. There is only on friend I keep in touch with closely an you probbly know them here on my lot. I might get an ocassionl e mail from another former worker but seldom any calls from many. Variousthngs happened in our lives; our parents needed more attention, a sibling needed help and a child had childern an some became a devoted grand parent. I have had jobs in my retirement but the age difference was too muh to really develope much of a friendship. Peace to you as well as symathy for the loss of your mom.

You must get out there.Talk to them don't be shut up and cut off.my mother died just over a year ago and with out my mates and family I would not have survived.Ring your old friends up and tell them you are grieving and I bet they arrange a night out for you.It is not healthy at this time to spend to much time on your own.

i am sorry about your Mother and i can't understand why your friends didn't send any cards. one year is not a very long time for them to forget you.they were not much of friends to start with.

Well, my first thought is that even if I had not talked to you in months if we were friends and I heard of your mother's passing I would at least send you a quick email and ask how you were doing.

It's easy to drift apart from our friends when we are busy just getting through life but even people I am not espeically close to that I may talk to a few times a year gave me condolences when my mother's husband passed away despite the fact that most people knew we were not on speaking terms at the time because of a lie he told that my mother ridiculously believed.

In some instances though people really have to feel close to someone to even interact or go out of the way to say anything over a loss. The subject makes some people uncomfortable and to some it's not a huge matter.

I have always worked in the arts or entertainment industry in some capacity and spent most of my adult life self employed at least part-time. This doesn't always lend itself to a social life but I have always had friends. I pick and choose my social time and I reserve more time as me time than for hanging out with friends to allow me to get ample rest and recharge my batteries.

I say all that to say that friendships differ as we get older and get busy and true friends understand that. I just had to hunt down a friend I haven't heard from in a while who has been going through a difficult time. We have known each other since we were teenagers and from time to time we get too busy to communicate on a regular basis. We talk when we can and we catch up as time permits.

A busy person with a life just does not have the time to sit and dish with the girls. There is nothing wrong with that. I am sure you get out occasionally and you have been outgoing here so you must be a friendly person. Even a quick chat with the checkout girl at the supermarket counts as human interaction.

I think you are just feeling that your loss in compounded because you feel isolated now that you are working at home, but the truth is even if you were surrounded by an office full of co-workers you may not feel any more comforted.

At times like these we feel more comfort from an unconditionlly loving pet nestled in our laps or a laughing child who runs up and hugs us repeatedly than from our adult friends and associates who usually are left feeling awkward and not knowing what to say or do to comfort us.

Things will get better. Just take it one day at a time.