Saying I'm sorry....and interesting concept!

If the person sincerly has evaluated all their conduct and realized that they were wrong, it can show that they do have clarity at some point. It may be because of the clarity that they finaly take responsibilty for their words and actions. I know that we cannot expect this from all x's. I have not received a card, but I am not expecting to see one either. It would be a real surprise.

Saying those words, those simple yet meaningful, words can at least ease the pain in someone's heart. No, the one I love has never said sorry. She's still enjoying herself, and I'm still waiting. Waiting nor for her to say sorry, but for her to come back to me. We are not divorced, but she separated herself from us. I'm sorry for coming in thy discussion and express myself and my heart!

I think that was sweet of your sister's ex-husband to send a card. Atleast she had some idea that he did feel bad about the way things happened and there was a divorce.

I do feel better if someone tells me they are sorry especially if my feeling were hurt. I can't relate to an ex-husband because I've only been married once and we just celebrated our 40th anniversary. I am a lucky lady or maybe he's a lucky man..lol

I only really have one ex, a boyfriend, and no, he never said he's sorry, and I don't expect him to, but it's not a big deal.

My husband says he's sorry all the time, and that's about all he'll say. It actually makes me crazy because I don't always think he is sorry, he's just saying it so that I stop yelling at him or whatever.

Wow! I imagine that is very rare for a divorced person. To me, it does make me feel better when someone who has wronged me has apologized. Recently, a friend who did something pretty bad to me a couple of years ago sent me a card to apologize, and then sent me an e-mail. I forgive her, but I did not return the e-mail. Just because I forgive her doesn't mean I want to have her back in my life. But it did make me feel better. I had forgiven her before she asked for my forgiveness. If I hadn't, I would have been eaten up with bitterness these past couple of years.

Say your sorry is nice if the person really means it. I know people that say it so often that its nothing but words, they think that it will get them out of anything that they have done. I have been divorced for almost 19 years and my ex-husband has told me that he was sorry, this of course was years after we parted and he admits that it was his fault. I think sometimes when some people get older they realize the mistakes that they have made. Of course if it would have been me that got a card like that, the first thing that would probably cross my mind would be something like "OK what does he what" or "I wonder what he's up to now"

This is interesting.

I have always wondered the affect of the word. Sorry just as strong as hearing a your welcome or a thank you.

Very strong affect to the mental stability of someone self-confidence or self-reassurance.

I take sorrys very firmly. I believe when someone tells you they are sorry they are sorry and hope not to ever do it again. I don't enjoy sorry's being throw in catagories like oops, mybad, i won't do it, my apologizes, or excuses me.

There are probably long list of words that people may use in replacement of the word. I hope people don't start taking it for granted because the affect of the word has more meaning to the person receiving the sorry.

I hope your not too afraid to say it or think its "uncool" to use it.

Godbless

Hello Jill
In a word NO.
I am trying not to laugh about it, even though it is not really funny. When I think about the inhumanity that occurs between spouse, bf and gf, partners or what have you it is deplorable really.
Those feeling don't go away really I don't think..being just tossed aside as if you don't deserve an apology.
Yep, and no no one ever has, course I am quite satisfied at not having any contact thank you.
But sometimes in my mind, as it wanders, I may see them standing there and saying I am sorry..a wish perhaps?
And oh yes, how different a lot of things might have been.

Yes and I actually made a discussion on it here. My ex and I separated when we were about 24...I'm 53 and a few months ago out of the blue...I got a phone call. He admitted that he felt horrible for all that went wrong with us and said that he still loved me. He wanted to know if i'd consider going out with him again. Honestly, I think he'd been drinking. Either way...it was nice to hear as we haven't really talked much in all these years. I had no desire to go back to those times but it was nice to hear.

I think it's wonderful that he took a few minutes out of the day to say "Sorry". I have run into my ex a few years after we separated and hoped to hear those words but they never came. I would appreciate it very much thinking if he ever thought of how much pain he had caused me while we were together. I think that goes to anyone who had ever hurt me.

I sent an old friend from a while ago a letter to tell her that if I had caused her any harm I was sorry. I never heard from her but just doing it made me feel good. I really don't think I hurt her but someone from mylot said to write "if I had caused her harm that I apologized".

Tell her to take it for what it is and maybe he knows something that she doesn't, like he needs to make peace before he dies.