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myLot reputation of 96/100. beatrice03 (110)   ranked 3,517 out of 23,353 in relationships6 months ago

I just broke up with my first boyfriend last year. We've been together for 3 years. During our relationship he was very loyal, I used to think that the last thing he'll ever do is find another woman, and so it was. From then on I believed that no matter how long you've been in a relationship with a guy it's not safe to assume that you know him perfectly. Men would always find "a new cow to replace the old cow". Eventually they would want somebody new. What do you think is this true? is it just in their nature? Or am i just talking based on experience?


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1. myLot reputation of 91/100. Thebraggingman (216)   ranked 6,114 out of 23,353 in relationships   6 months ago

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2. myLot reputation of 95/100. chiyosan (9189)   ranked 1,815 out of 23,353 in relationships   6 months ago

i think they are polygamous, they make an excuse out of it saying they are not but tend to have multiple girlfriends we might not even be aware about.


myLot reputation of 96/100. beatrice03 (110)   ranked 3,517 out of 23,353 in relationships  6 months ago

LOL I agree with you chiyosan! So does this mean we're never gonna get a good man to be in a serious relationship with? or if there might it's just a 1% chance? LOL

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3. myLot reputation of 97/100. flaredust (340)   ranked 5,055 out of 23,353 in relationships   6 months ago

May be lots of man do cheating, but I'm not. I admit, when I saw another woman I look her and give an assessment inside my thought like "she's pretty" or "she's just average", but that's all, I'm not going further than that. I have wife, she was my one and only girlfriend I had, sure I've meet many interesting woman in my life, but I only choose one. I think we find our mate is to reach the balance for our life, not for fun or lust. I have my balance and that's all I need.


myLot reputation of 96/100. beatrice03 (110)   ranked 3,517 out of 23,353 in relationships  6 months ago

Good for you flaredust!.. I know not all men do cheat, the best example is my father. He and my mom had been together now for over 30 years. But I don't know, it's just that nowadays people are much more experimental so I think men are really prone to being unfaithful and to having relationship with more than one woman.


myLot reputation of 97/100. flaredust (340)   ranked 5,055 out of 23,353 in relationships  6 months ago

Probably they just too much watching tv shows or celebrity's marriage and divorcement. Actually I really hate couples who broken up with light reason but they blow it up as a big problems, like "we don't have the same vision" or "we're not destined to be together"... oh, come on people, if you don't ready to do marriage just don't do that, wait for your true "turn". From my opinion, every problems have solutions, just be patience to find it and not quickly jump to "broke up" or "divorce" conclusion.

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4. myLot reputation of 89/100. kenraku (161)   ranked 17,911 out of 23,353 in relationships   6 months ago

Hi, I think there is no absolute answer for your question. There are many reasons why a man looks for another woman. Maybe he is not loving deep enough. Maybe he cannot control himself. Maybe he already feel boring with her. Maybe he just want to find another. There are still many I don't covered in here.
But I don't agree that all of men are willing to find a new one. Except the last reason, I think everything I have mentioned above can be bridle. I mean, it is the problem of self-contorl, it can be trained up by their own experience or maturity.
I don't know which is suitable for your case. But men are not always want to find another substitute. And else, when two people have been together, the longer it has, the harder to replace.
I have been with my girl friend for 8 years. I have no reason to find another woman.
Wish you best luck=]


myLot reputation of 96/100. beatrice03 (110)   ranked 3,517 out of 23,353 in relationships  6 months ago

Wow! really? 8 years? that's long enough I think. Aren't you planning to get married soon?...
Yeah it really depends on the person. But for me guys nowadays really have a tendency of having relationship with more than one woman, maybe because they find a lot of choices, or they just really want somebody 'new' constantly, I don't know. It doesn't really depend on how long your relationship is. I remember a local celebrity who had a long term relationship with a guy for 10 years, and then they broke up, it was said that the guy found another woman. Just sharing my thoughts.


myLot reputation of 89/100. kenraku (161)   ranked 17,911 out of 23,353 in relationships  6 months ago

Nope um well... things always happed, I just try my best to keep the relationship go on. 8 Aug is our 8yrs anniversary. I plan to marry but first I have to make more money and graduate from university. I think we will get marry within 5 years. It takes so much time to reach my goal, a long term commitment(XP)

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5. myLot reputation of 88/100. doinkyroinky (131)   ranked 19,640 out of 23,353 in relationships   6 months ago

I have experienced this also, a cheating boyfriend and i do agree most men are polygamous in nature based also on what i see from my friends and family members. Men are weaker to temptation and usually succumb to their desires. I just feel sad about this because a measure of true love is the ability to be honest, loyal and staying committed to the person you are with regardless of what temptations you encounter.


myLot reputation of 96/100. beatrice03 (110)   ranked 3,517 out of 23,353 in relationships  6 months ago

I so agree Doinky. I believe it's just something in their nature really, I don't know how to explain it. It's as if it's so hard for them to stick with one woman. I believe some men out there are still loyal, but I haven't met them yet LOL!

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6. myLot reputation of 95/100. laydee (3976)   ranked 96 out of 23,353 in relationships   6 months ago

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7. myLot reputation of 53/100. superaren (172)   ranked 19,642 out of 23,353 in relationships   6 months ago

Good luck!


myLot reputation of 96/100. beatrice03 (110)   ranked 3,517 out of 23,353 in relationships  6 months ago

Short but precise I guess. I do need a lot of luck. Thanks for the response.

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8. myLot reputation of 93/100. brienn (407)   ranked 12,771 out of 23,353 in relationships   6 months ago

Many women said that man are polygamous in nature. But they always said that when they have experienced heartaches and have been a broken by a man. But there are some man out there like who is a one woman man. And I think should last forever only if both partners are open minded and have trust and faith with each other. No man will look for another woman if he feels and sees the loved, trust and understanding from her present woman.


myLot reputation of 96/100. beatrice03 (110)   ranked 3,517 out of 23,353 in relationships  6 months ago

I don't know about you but I don't think that just because the woman loves the man SO MUCH that the man would no longer find another woman. I really think that a person (let's make thins for both sexes) will find somebody new whenever he or she decides to, it's really a matter of choice I guess. I just don't understand why men has to be the one to always make the choice of being in a relationship with more than one woman LOL. Hope you can enlighten me. Thanks Breinn!:)

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9. myLot reputation of 70/100. aschip (150)   ranked 7,001 out of 23,353 in relationships   5 months ago

Well if you see other species on this planet. Men are polygamous.
But ofcourse there are species where the men die immediately after mating.
Some kind of male bees are only born to reproduce and when the mate they die of it. lol

I think humans are wiser and better than other species and hence should be able to decide logically what is right and wrong for themselves.

Some men mite think that they are born polygamous and cant help but to change partners.

I know I am not polygamous.

So cant really make a general statement which applies to all the men in this world.

Thats just my perspective!


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