Is there really an Excuse for Abuse!  

You are right there isn't a good reason for abuse. No matter whether it is male or female. I believe that one reason that a abused person won't get out, is because the person that is doing the abuse has put their self esteem to the pits. They longer believe in anything. They feel totally lost and no end to their situation. If we put them down for not leaving then we are only adding to their low self esteem. Lets help them in some way that they can understand.

Some time it may be social obligation and some time it may be moral obligation for the person to stay put. Only the concerned person can be the better judge.

I agree with you. There is absolutely no excuse for abuse, or violence for that matter. There is no reason why people should behave this way towards other human beings or animals or any living creature. Abuse needs to stop. It's not going to end overnight, but it's something that we need to fight for.

No reason for abuse. But often people cannot leave because they cannot see the path to get away,

There is NO excuse for abuse! Period! All that BS about how the abuser promises to change? Pure, unadulterated BS.

There is no excuse for any kind of abuse whether it be mental, or physical! Abuse scars people for life, and it is especially harmful to children, who have to constantly witness the mental, and physical cruelty to their Mother/Father. It does go both ways! They grow up watching abuse, and they think this is the way life is supposed to be..and consequently, repeat the same behavior when they are adults, and treat their family the same way. It becomes a never ending, and vicious circle!

Children in this kind of home environment develop mental problems, anxiety, anger management, and fear for their own safety, as well as the abused parent, or child.

The abused parent needs to get out of this dangerous situation for their own well being, and their children's health and safety. So many of these situations result in serious hospitalization, and frequently death!

If you are in an abusive relationship, get out as quickly as possible..go to a shelter and get help. Don't make the mistake of believing them when they start crying, and begging for forgivness, saying it will never happen again, as this is just a part of the vicious circle, and they cannot be believed. It always happens again and usually each time it gets more violent. Protect yourself and your children! Leave! Get help! Abusers cannot be trusted! This pattern will always be repeated!

Hello katie472001, I agree that an abusive relationship is bad. But degree of abuse, and the reason for abuse would affect my judgment on whether to walk out or not. Especially if there are children in the picture. If my spouse has some drawback, which has been wittingly or unwittingly highlighted or ridiculed, or hif he had a bad day at office, and if I unwittingly happen to nag him for some reason, and he reacts badly, I would have only me to blame for a bad marriage. It can happen in all marriages depending on the drawback and kind of irritant. It is purely bad luck that it would have happened in mine. Expecting my spouse to bottle up his or her anger and be pleasant to me at all times is not fair. After all, there should be some place in the world that he or she can be himself. And home is that place. I'd want to understand what triggers that behavior, and see if I can do something about it. And I would expect a similar understanding from him. But I cannot condone any physical abuse, most certainly not.