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myLot reputation of 99/100. ybonjoc (1191)   ranked 109 out of 2,035 in get married 3 years ago

Well, I did not realize life will totally be different when I decided to get married.Of course, after marriage, no more hanging around with boys.No more going out late.No more idle moments.No more relax mode for a long time.No more hanging out with friends for a longer time.Life really change for me...But I have no regrets.I am happily married.thumbupWhat about you?What are the things that had change when you decided to live your life for someone else?Even the singles can learn from it.Share your thoughts.


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1. myLot reputation of 97/100. lynnemg (4035)   ranked 421 out of 2,035 in get married   3 years ago

Since I married my husband, I no longer hang out with any of my old guy friends, although his friends do stop by the house quite often. I no longer make all of the household decisions on my own, although I do still make the majority of them. I never was one to go out so that hasn't changed at all; I still stay home with my kids rather than go out. I no longer sleep alone or with my kids. When I ws single, it was nothing for my kids to crawl in bed with me, or even on the couch when I would fall asleep there. I have someone aside from the kids to talk to each day, which is really nice; sometimes, adult conversation is just necessary. I don't cook like I used to because my husband is very picky; that is one thing that I do miss at times. I no longer just get in my car and go wherever whenever I feel like it; now I try to tell my husband what I am planning and we discuss what we would both like to do. The biggest thing that has changed for me though is, I finally feel like my life is complete and on the right track. That is one of the greatest feelings I know.


myLot reputation of 99/100. ybonjoc (1191)   ranked 109 out of 2,035 in get married  3 years ago

lynne I am happy to hear that.It seems like two heads are better than one most of the time.We have our hubby as our partners in everything that we do.thumbup

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2. myLot reputation of 95/100. phyrre (1259)   ranked 17 out of 2,035 in get married   3 years ago

I find that I go out less and less, even though we haven't really been married for very long. Part of that is because we moved so far away from our family and friends and I don't know too many people that I could go hang out with and part is because when I get home I'm usually on here earning money.

The good thing is that my husband isn't really jealous, so I can still be my normal self and joke around with guys and everything. As long as they understand I'm not flirting (and trust me, they all do) then it's all good. xD I've got a good guy friend at work that came in the other day and said, "Hey beautiful!" because he hasn't seen me for a month or so. But we're very similar, so we get along easily, and he knows that I'm married and he's getting married next March, so I think that makes our relationship a lot easier because there's no weird feelings or pressure since we're both taken and happy. thumbup

Other than that, I've only really been married for a month, so nothing has changed so far. Everything's the same as before we got married, but even before we got married everyone said we were an old married couple. LOL.


myLot reputation of 99/100. ybonjoc (1191)   ranked 109 out of 2,035 in get married  3 years ago

lol.Why would people call you were an old married couple?My husband is a jealous one and I can't hang with any boys in the office even the ones that are used to be my friends before I got married.I hate him that way.But I still understand him and do not take it seriously.


myLot reputation of 95/100. phyrre (1259)   ranked 17 out of 2,035 in get married  3 years ago

Well, we've known each other since Kindergarden and have been friends for quite a while, so ever since we started dating we've been really comfortable with each other and everything. And eventually we just settled down together, I guess.

I remember one evening we were at his mother's house about 5 months into our relationship and we were sitting on the couch and he was reading and I was crocheting a blanket and his mother burst out laughing and was like "geez, guys, you're already an old married couple!". But everyone says it. :)


myLot reputation of 99/100. ybonjoc (1191)   ranked 109 out of 2,035 in get married  3 years ago

lol.Now i know.It is good that you know each other well from the time you were still kids.Wish you a happy marriage.thumbup

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3. myLot reputation of 98/100. neildc (8307)   3 years ago

Hi. I was a happy go lucky guy when I was single. I used to hang-out with friends. But I have to change my life style when I got married. If there are occassions I have to attend, I have to get permission first from my wife, and usually, she will come with me, to avoid some misunderstanding. In decision making, we both have to talk about it first. I can't just decide on one thing with out her knowledge, specially with money matters.

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4. myLot reputation of 98/100. neildc (8307)   3 years ago

Hi. I was a happy go lucky guy when I was single. I used to hang-out with friends. But I have to change my life style when I got married. If there are occassions I have to attend, I have to get permission first from my wife, and usually, she will come with me, to avoid some misunderstanding. In decision making, we both have to talk about it first. I can't just decide on one thing with out her knowledge, specially with money matters.


myLot reputation of 99/100. ybonjoc (1191)   ranked 109 out of 2,035 in get married  3 years ago

I admire you for being responsible as a husband friend neil.And your wife seemed to be helpful when it cohappyney.

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5. lgw65665827 (37)   3 years ago

just like you guys said. when i got married ,i losed my freedom . no more hanging out with my good friend , no more smoking and drinking, no more sports tv . she is totally my leader. i can do anything she allows ,and cant do anything she doesnt allows. my god! maybe that is life !


myLot reputation of 99/100. ybonjoc (1191)   ranked 109 out of 2,035 in get married  3 years ago

lol lgw.So you are saying your wife is controlling your life?Even sports TV is not allowed?wow really strict then.Maybe she is a jealous type?

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6. myLot reputation of 78/100. jaizhi (176)   ranked 1,785 out of 2,035 in get married   3 years ago

Well, my husband always allow me to hang around with my old friends even up till late as long as I keep him updated every hour so he wont worry and as long as I share important details with him. He allows me to drink occassionally as long as I ask permission. I think the only thing change was since I got married I dont like going home to my siblings and parent house cause when I visit and stay there for the night I feel home sick. My husband is understanding maybe because he knows I was the youngest in my family and maybe because in his family he is the oldest or maybe because of our age gap he understands that we both need to enjoy life.

Hahaha.. maybe onething I love doing that can't do anymore is dating... ahahhaa... I would say he should be the one answering this discussion because ever since we got married I dont allow him coming home past 12mn or drinking with flirty friends. I am more strick than he is..


myLot reputation of 99/100. ybonjoc (1191)   ranked 109 out of 2,035 in get married  3 years ago

Your husband is only being fair.And he must be very understanding to allow you to do such things.I cannot really go outside with friends especially when there is a boy.I even find it hard to make him approve that I need to attend a party like in the office (birthday).
lol you seemed to be more strictthumbup than your husband.


myLot reputation of 78/100. jaizhi (176)   ranked 1,785 out of 2,035 in get married  3 years ago

Hahaha... Yes I am very stick... I dont even allow him texting girls form his work specially when I dont feel the girl is good... Girl's intuition. LOL... He is the one more obedient than I am... hahaha... He goes home straight form work and would really even call if his friends invites him to drink to ask permission and if I say no he will frown but would still obey.. hahaha. I love him and I know I can be over sometimes... but I dont know he said he likes it cause he feels that I love him so much to let anyone get his attention. hahaha... I think he got my point. Oh he can also be strick and be like my dad grounding me for a week when he see "HONEY or SWEETY" endearment from my guy friends. lol... But I can assure him that he is my only one and he knows that...

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7. myLot reputation of 64/100. nirjaagrey (216)   3 years ago

every thing has changed , there is no personal life left , right frm morning i am worried abt my hubby & son . my bathing time has reduced as i have to cook food , while cooking am worried abt feed the same to my son , then clean the house & so on . i i dont get time for myself


myLot reputation of 99/100. ybonjoc (1191)   ranked 109 out of 2,035 in get married  3 years ago

It is really not an easy thing to be a mother and at the same time a wife.There are always these responsibilities.I am happy to hear that you are being such a good mother and a wife.I would suggest you give some time for yourself to relax and unwind.Something like a vacation when your hubby has no work?

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8. aeshamel19 (86)   3 years ago

hi there..i am not yet married but then I decided to respond in this discussion because even if i am not yet married it seems that i am because me and my boyfriend are now living under the same roof..we were just renting a room here in manila...Of course my life has changed...my boyfriend is very strict.we both have work but then i am enjoying his company and i am happy even if I can't go out with friends without his permission first..

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9. myLot reputation of 97/100. LetranKnight25 (11773)   ranked 414 out of 2,035 in get married   3 years ago

happyI am still single but when i had a relationship once, it inspired me and allow me to become better than myself. at least only for that while. am not sure when you're married.cry.

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10. myLot reputation of 98/100. ckyera (4912)   ranked 325 out of 2,035 in get married   3 years ago

hello there!

many things have changed since the time i marry my husband...well anyway im not really into hanging out with guys and going out late...but what have changed is...i started to live far from my parents for the first time...i start doing household chores on my own...and i need to leave my job to be with him!
at first its not easy to give it up, but since its my decision to marry him so i must do all those! hehehe but before i marry him i already know that these things will gonna happen...so that's just the major changes in me since i got married...its not easy but i learn to live with it and i am happy now with my life with him!happy


hennys4 (1)  3 years ago

since i have gotten nothing has change. i been worn not to married my husband because of his not wanting. to work . i should have listen . i been married for 4 years but it seems iam not getting no where. my husband is not help me out . like bills etc. he will not even help me around the house it feels iam being used. iam right . i did once love him but it seems thats it,s geting to the point i don,t what him around me. . i refuses t get a job. i will be getting inherience in he acts like it was his parents that pass away i feel iam being used for everything iam right.


myLot reputation of 99/100. ybonjoc (1191)   ranked 109 out of 2,035 in get married  3 years ago

Hello ckyera,
Yes we need to separate from our parents when we decided to get married.And do the chores on our own.That is part of it, and also important for us to grow more responsible and better person.I am happy that you are enjoying your married life too.thumbup

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