How to avoid hurt feelings?  

Hi,, a good lesson to learn here,let me make it short,, all of u pass through such a situation,,the bigger brothers,, try to keep the younger one down,years pass,the younger one is in agood job now,,the older ones respect him so much,is it that they need his support,, maybe,, so why discriminte between your own,, when in power,,,

oh that is quite a sad story but nonetheless a happy ending. Sad because for all those years they could have enjoyed each other. but happy because at the end reconcialition took place.

Yes i agree with you that those hurt can grow, before you know it it blinds your eyes to what is the truth. Everything then is seen through the eyes of negativity even how normal or harmless the gesture might be. Everything the other person does you perceive it as against you.

I think the key here is forgiveness. One has to understand that there is a point in your life that you will be hurt,or you will hurt.

The quicker one forgives the quicker the roots of bitterness is uproated.

Forgive others and forgive yourself.

You have a good post here

Feeling hurt would be difficult to avoid. When you feel it, its real, it marks something in your heart. Sometimes, you feel wounded and you feel like giving up. There is no such thing as avoiding hurt feelings but there is forgiving and accepting things. :)

Hi there!
Your family's story touched me deeply. It tells a kind of lesson to all of us that life is not only about fighting and hurting others. I on my part, prefer not to hurt others. I believe if I cannot make them laugh due to any reason, I should not make them cry because of my deeds. If somebody hurts me, I try to forget the incident, because carrying the ill feelings with me does not serve any purpose to me, I feel.

I have found that the best way to avoid hurt feelings, is to not 'wear them on your shoulders'! For me, this has helped me a lot in coping with family, friends, and strangers ! I get along with everyone, and I do my best not to hurt anyone else's feelings, because to me that would just be a 'cheap shot' !
A lot of family and friends confide in me, and I console them a lot, for this reason!
I've always believed that being honest, and up front, always lays the foundation for a successful relationship !




ps--And thank you for the best response you gave me on the 'Christmas Post',alegnaluva !

I think its better if you wont try and avaoid being hurt. I know that its pretty painful to experience it but somehow when your hurt thats the time that you are able to grow much stronger. When we make mistakes we should learn how to accept the fact that we make mistakes every now and then and should learn how to move on and try to grow and enjoy life some more.
Its with this mistakes and problems that we bloom and we grow thats why im telling you now do not be afraid to be hurt you should be thinking about how to move on and not how to avoid being hurt .
Life is full of challenges you should know to play with life so that everything will be under control ;)