Should I go or not?

I think that you should go. Just because you are not going to drink doesn't mean you can't go. They always need a responsible one there who they can trust to make sure nothing bad happens or even to be driven. As for dancing, you don't really have to, just move your feet from side to side. I just think you should go cause this person is your friend, and it shows that you care about him or her.

My advice: DON'T GO. I don't need to explain because you know deep down inside your heart that there's no good thing that comes out of a birthday celebration in a bar. It take guts to have character. Yes, they may label you as kj, but it's worth it because you keep yourself pure and clean from those wickedness. I hope that you take a stand even when the world doesn't seem to care. It's important to have something to believe in, proven by actions.

You can still enjoy without drinking and dancing, if you're not really up to it. I, like you, don't drink and don't like dancing either. i never hang out in bars and i've never been in one. but if your friends really want you to go, maybe you should but tell them upfront that you're not into those things (like drinking and dancing)... if they really respect you, they're not going to imply it anymore. Maybe its not what you do... They just want your presence there.

If your gut feeling is that you should not go, then I would not go. I would still wish the person Happy Birthday and try to do something special for their birthday. You will not be the first or the last to not participate.

If you do decide to go, I would order something like a fruit juice and have it straight or ask it to be mixed with some bicarbonate of soda for a little fizzy affect. If you are a person who does not enjoy drinking, smoking, and dancing, you probably won't enjoy watching others do this. Maybe you could talk to a counselor at the college for some advice or direction to find others with your same philosophy.

it depends... is it really a must to go there? if not, don't force yourself. i think she would understand if you'll explain to her everything... anyways, you owe your absence to only one person and to all of your dorm mates.

Common courtesy demands that you go. You can just hang on to a fruit punch or a non alcoholic mocktail of a soda for the evening ans spend some time. Spending time in a happy atmosphere will be a good break from the tensions of life. You can always make up an excuse to leave after spending a decent amount of time. You owe it to the friendship you have with her.

i think you should not go if you dont like it. but tell her frankly that as it is in a bar i will not come there and it does'nt mean that i am keeping aside

As far as i think u should go and attend the party.. instead of drinks u can take a cool drink.. there is no bad in going and attending the party.. it shows how much u care fotr that person.. as some1 mentioned..

I think you should not go as if you dont go there by heart you will had the worst time there so i belive you should be there enjoy ur life oin ur terms and chill

Hi! You can go for exchanging good wish/views. Otherwise they will think that you unsocial. You can watch and enjoy others activities. Have a nice day.