I'm so upset.

a good way to express your resentment ... writing is one one form of eliminating irritation ... but I am never write my annoyance in mylot. lol

I think most young people are the same, I think back to when I was youngand I was exactly the same, I think young people have tunnel vision and they can only see straigh ahead..I think it is a selfish phase most go through, sadly for you....but remember it is just a phase.

If I am the father, i wouldn't hesitate to throw all of her animals, that would have at least solved my problems. and if she get mad, I'll warned her to be responsible or else she's ground or out of the house!. I won't let that happen to me, being taken for granted and she's not doing her part? you have every right to rant, don't worry were here for yah

I have teenage boys and they are the same! I do not think it is done purposefully, they do not 'see' the things they need to do and concentrate on want they wish to do. I constantly have to remind mine to do certain chores, which they do do, but I get angry that I have to remember what they should do for themselves without having to tell them. They think that as Mum did everything while they growing up, Mum will still do it when they are young adults. If I was in your situation I would tell your daughter that it is enough and if she does not look after her animals then they will have to go, and that as she is now grown, she must take responsibility for helping out.

Give her a deadline that she either starts helping around the house, cleaning the cat liter and feeding the various pets, or the cat goes first and that you will stop doing her laundry; or cooking for her; unless she starts to help again..
She needs t know that mother will not fix her mess when she moves out at 18.
And stop picking up her stuff unless it is in the common living area. IF she leaves stuff there, it might be a good ideal to toss it into the back seat of her car.
I know that this is basically confrontational; but it puts the ball in your court.
With anything that you do you will need GOOD LUCK,

Hi Libby! as a mom you have taken a lot pains to grow your girl. All children get extra privileges from their moms. All mothers are weak for their children. She does not know all things but naturally she is taking this advantages. It is very natural.

Do you have other kid(s)? How are they all? Where they are studying all? Could you please reply? Have a nice day.

Did you do the right thing? I don't see what you did. You didn't do anything to change her behaviour. She's an adult, and you need to sit down with her and outline what your expectations are of her. I would also lay down consequences if she doesn't hold up her end of the bargain. Be very clear about what you expect. Don't just say "clean up after yourself". Say clean up after your animals, clean the litter box on a daily basis, do the dishes, etc, etc.

If she doesn't do it, you have to be serious about the consequences you're prepared to hand out. You can tell her if it isn't done, she'll have to move out, or, if the animals aren't cleaned up after, you're giving them away. You have to be prepared to follow through with whatever it is you say. Otherwise, you will just have to keep doing what you're doing, cleaning up after her, and being angry.

My wife used to do the same for one of our daughters. The other took care of her pet bird. My daughter begged and begged for a horse but we wouldn't get her one even though we could have rented a house with a horse coral right in our back yard.
We don't wash her clothes and don't usually fix any meals for her. If we do fix a big meal she is welcomed to eat with us. We have at one time put all her things in a trunk. A year or two later when we moved we looked in the trunk to see what was there as she never earned those things back and we forgot all about them. I think sometimes we give our children too much. Sometimes a schedule with everybody having a job might help. I know we have schedules for when we each can do our own washing. She seems to be more likely to do her wash when she is suppose to instead of letting it pile up until she has no clothes.

I don't think cat is a damn matter.It's very smart and lovely,if you treat it as your baby,you will love this small kid.

Somebody was talking to Holly last night? lol

I'm thinking you should make it clear to her that if she doesn't start talking care of the animals, you are going to find good homes for them. And then if she doesn't take care of it, follow through.