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 several weeks ago, i posted something in the love section here in mylot about my problem regarding with my gay friend. so i'm going to narrate again the story. i had a boyfriend whom my gay friend dislikes because of some petty reasons. when we were at our hangout, my gay friend told me to have pictures with him and my boyfriend, so without any malice, i took pictures of them. when he was about to return my phone, he told that he wasn't able to blue tooth their pictures because my phone was somewhat destroyed. days passed, we weren't able to hangout again because we were both busy. my best friend confessed to me about my gay friend's lie. me and my gay friend were from different schools so i wasn't knowledgeable that he's spreading news that my boyfriend and him were lovers. i told him to retract all the lies that he's spreading and to apologize to me and my boyfriend and my gay friend really did it. since then, we no longer communicate. now, i'm willing to forgive him.. the problem is i don't think that he's really sorry because after he said sorry, he never made an effort of fixing our friendship again... should i give him another chance?:(
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 eLsMarie (1157) | 5 months ago | maybe i was just in a state where i realized that i miss him...:( we've been friends for almost seven years and just because of a single mistake we ended up as being strangers again...:( anyways, thanks for your response!!!:) i really need this kind of advices. | |
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| 2. modstar (4959) | 5 months ago |  This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content.
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| eLsMarie (1157) | 5 months ago | This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content. | |
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| modstar (4959) | 5 months ago | Did you read my post too? i didn't say you're from the same school. I said, from school to school. | |
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| modstar (4959) | 5 months ago | This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content. | |
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| eLsMarie (1157) | 5 months ago | okay... you said it | |
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| eLsMarie (1157) | 5 months ago | woOow! LetranKnight25 you've been so helpful to me... how i wish i could share all my problems with somebody so caring like you...:( thank you very much... you have been very generous in giving responses. i'm so glad that you really spend time understanding my post...:) | |
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| eLsMarie (1157) | 5 months ago | i should be very careful next time LetranKnight25... hmmp... maybe i'll just wait for the right time that he'll make the first move...:) thank you very much...:) | |
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4.  syankee525 (3547) | 5 months ago |  This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content.
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| eLsMarie (1157) | 5 months ago | the rumors about my boyfriend having an affair with my current boyfriend isn't true. he already said sorry but he's not making an effort that he's really sincere in his apology...:( | |
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| syankee525 (3547) | 5 months ago | well then if he said sorry you can either just go with that, or say the heck with him and move on | |
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| eLsMarie (1157) | 5 months ago | how i wish i was that strong to just move on a life without having friends with him...:( thanks for posting!!! | |
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| 5. laydee (3983) | 5 months ago |  hmm.. why did you have to repost the topic?
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| eLsMarie (1157) | 5 months ago | i have to re post the topic because the last time i posted it, i was not yet ready to forgive him... now, i'm very much ready however i find difficulties in forgiving him again because after he said sorry he no longer communicates with me... | |
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| 6. rg0205 (1710) | 5 months ago |  I forgive for myself and not for others because it's not nice to carry grudges or ill feelings. It often causes more harm/stress on you than it does to the person who inflicted it.
I would forgive, I normally do but forgiving a person doesn't necessarily mean that you go back to the way things were. Just be civil. No need to be all hunky dory and go kumbaya with him.
A sincere apology would be nice but you can't always expect that in people. Forgive for you. It takes a thorn out of your chest.
Should you give him another chance? You can have him as a friend, yes but again, things will not go back to the way it was unless you want it to be. I would be friends with the guy but I'll set limitations because he had already proven himself not worthy.
NO one is perfect but we all have boundaries. Question is really, what are your limitations?
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| eLsMarie (1157) | 5 months ago | i want to give him another chance but it's too difficult for me to be close with him again...:( i wanted to forget all the bad memories that have happened but whenever i get to imagine his face, i'm always reminded of what he did...:( | |
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| rg0205 (1710) | 5 months ago | Clearly youre not ready to forgive. Time will come but dont let him affect you the way he does. See, you're the loser here if you keep letting him do that to you.
If you're not ready now then give it time.:-)
When you're ready to forgive, that's gonna be good for you. Like I said, you don't have to be best friends. Just be civil. | |
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| 7. pratyushtamhankar (526) | 5 months ago |  Well reading your post, I don't think you wanna give him a second chance. But still, why do you care? He's the one who has made the mistake. If he wants another chance, he would not only say sorry but also try to convince you that he is a good guy. If he hasn't done anything like that, then I think you shouldn't bother.
The decision's upto you, forgiving is never a bad thing. But the ones who deserve to be forgiven should only be forgiven...
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| eLsMarie (1157) | 5 months ago | maybe i wasn't really ready...:( maybe i just simply miss the old days... | |
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8.  aabuda (253) | 5 months ago |  Gays are prone of spreading gossips especially love life. But not all of them, I myself can actually be different from them. I would rather support my bestfriend that spreading lies about a particular relationships. Men are for women. So they would just turn him down later. I would rather stay in the side of my bestfriend who is always in my side no matter what happens.
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| eLsMarie (1157) | 5 months ago | This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content. | |
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| 9. patriciaqualls (4604) | 5 months ago |  Hi eLsMarie,
Well this is just my opinion. But if he is really your friend
he wouldn't have tried to hurt you like that.
I would choose a different friend than that. If he really
cared he wouldnt be telling lies like that.
But again it is your choice to be friends with him
if he tells rumours once chances are he will keep doing so.
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| eLsMarie (1157) | 5 months ago | thank you patriciaqualls i'm happy that i get to receive wonderful comments from people who has a mature state of mind...:) | |
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| patriciaqualls (4604) | 5 months ago | You are very welcome. It isn't right at all what he
did if you ever do take him back as a friend he
will have a lot of making up to do.
With friends like him you certainly don't need enemies. | |
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10.  ladyhope (245) | 5 months ago | I wouldn't forgive him if I were you. This is more than a mistake, this was an intentional attempt to harm your boyfriend and yourself.
If you do forgive him, it better be because he has begged a ton and has in some way shown his remorse. It should not be just because you miss him because it may only lead to more harm in the future. | |
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| eLsMarie (1157) | 5 months ago | i think i'll just give another time for me to stay private again and just wait for the right time that he'll approach me again... thank you for posting!:) | |
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