How to help daughter to choose right friends/boyfriend???

Wow! I have not heard any stories about these situations! But that is defeniatly no good! I would never run away with a guy like that! Whether or not he's a good guy, disappearing and leaving everyone else you love means that you don't have a healthy relationship.

You defeniatly don't want to go over a line and get in your daughters personal space, but communicate with her! Talk to her like a friend, don't make it like a lecture--don't even make it seem like you're trying too hard.
Make sure SHE knows that you are okay with her going out, and let her know that if she feels comfortable with it, you'd like to meet her boyfriend. Never try to control what she does, that will just upset her and she'll think that running away would be better! If she's happy with you and feels like she has freedom she won't see any reason too!

Good luck!

yes,i have heard that too,
first of all you are only 19 and yet you have daughter near 18??:P
well i will suggest you to take keep interest in her,let her know that you are very good friend of her, what ever she wants to talk, must talk to you?
she dont need a friend or boyfriend till you permit her a right person,let her feel you are the one who can be best friend, be open to her ideas what ever kind they are, so she might not feel bad while sharing it with you,
also try to tell her the good qualities of the friends so that if and if she makes a friends she atleast checks her that is he/she is able to be called a friend of not?
take good care of your self and her
Gohar

there isnt much you can do, you just have to hope the daughter was taught the right things from her parents. but you can help by telling her about "red flags" or bad things that can come up during any point in the relationship. like if he does or says something to her that seems too good to be true, it probably is. or if he is promising her nice things, and a good life or whatever, that can lead to her trusting him TOO much, and he knows that he's doing this, so he can get her to willingly run away with him so he can later have his way with her. ESPECIALLY if he is violent or too physical and doesnt respect her boundaries if she says no. its sad, but its hard to see whats really going on when youre in the situation. it may be easier for someone else to see that hes up to no good. you can help by telling the girl that its good to be picky in a guy and that there are more fish in the sea. she doenst have to settle for the first or second guy that tries to swoop her off her feet.

Hi, for handling such situations we should ensure that our childrens are aware of right and wrong things. We should teach them and make them aware of the things time to time. Whenever they are doing something wrong, instead of yelling at them and shouting, we should tell them politely and with love. Because the childrens at these age are very sensitive. We should gain their confidence by letting them know that whatever we are doing as parents is for their benifits only. They may feel wrong at this time but will surely feel good for the same in future. And it totally depends on parents how they tackle such things.

hello kanukrishna,
having a teenagers is really hard. i mean, i have three teenagers now, two boys and a girl. keep on reminding them that they need to prioritize their studies. just okey to have friends but they need to choose them. having boy/girlfriends is a no no for now for they need to focus to their studies.
good thing they are open to us. they are bringing their friends in the house and i think that is better for we'll know and be able to meet them. just keep on reminding them what they need to do and what not to do.

hi kanu
fill really bad to head about this. I think if your doughtor/son feels friendly environment from your side. They will definately tell you averytng and not hide anythig from you. But just now she requires your moral support & if possible register complaint against those guys.
Regards
Viki

I think this problem is commonly happened to parents who their daughter is getting adult. The best way to teach our daughter how to find the right friends or boyfriend is by telling her about others experiences who had bad experienced with male friends. This is very important because we can tell her as case study on a fact, not fiction. Perhaps we will find difficulities on the first time when we tell her about this story, but as time goes by, i believe she can understand and she will follow our suggestion. No one want to be hurt, and no one want suffering on pains. Sometimes probably our daughter would got hurt by a boy, perhaps her boyfriend flirting, etc. I don't hoping such thing happened to our daughter, but if such thing really happened to her, probably that is the right moment to approaching our daughter feeling as show her about our care and attention to her and tell her slowly about how to be more selective when choosing a boyfriend or even friends. We know that teenager usually won't hear our advice when they are in good condition. It's a good luck if we can have children who will always listen and following our suggestion and advice. But on certain children, they usually won't hear their parents until something bad really happened to them. Good luck and have a nice day. Happy mylotting.

i think as parnets we cant pick thier friends and b/f. but we can teach them that they should never worry about changing themself to make friends, but thier own self and that a b/f should treat them very well.
also dont allow the b/f to control them and make then do things they dont want too

First and foremost, you and your daughter should have an open relationship, meaning you should communicate both with each other so that she can always share to you what's happening on her life. You can also ask your daughter to invite her friends over your house for some bonding time and you can assess them.
Then regarding on boyfriend stuff: So if ever she tells you that she likes this guy who's courting her, you should accept things that your daughter is now a lady but then you can give her her independence in choosing her guy but as we all know, mothers know best so you should also assess and know the guy (just to be sure that your daughter is safe with him). Also, give some time for your daughter to decide for herself and you should not be a controlling mother. Because if you control her life, there is tendency that your daughter will be choked so she would opt to be rebellious and would decide or choose wrong things like running away with her boyfriend.

No idea what the first phrase means.

How to help? I suggest you let her choose her friends. Then ask her to introduce them by inviting them over. Then you check them out=D