based from a real story

Well, that is the choice she made for herself so it's not much a bother to you because it's her who will suffer the consequences. I just say that truly, the kids are the ones affected most. Therefore, if you are not married yet, find a man that is godly because he will love you and provide for your needs and will never leave you when the tough gets rough.

This is really bad though because I feel the kids will suffer as usual in such a decision made by parent, the worst thing in this is the future of the children, they are going to grown up with what has been imposed by an adult of the family.

thats sooo sad. i feel really sorry for ur cousin's husband. he must have been realy strong to put up with ur cousin for so long, seeing as how bad her nature turned out to be. and him taking care to his children even after all this happened, thats really applaudable. and i have negative comments about ur cousin which i shall not make, because i feel i have no right to judge without listening to both sides of the story. but from what i have heard so far, i side with ur cousin's husband on this one...

that happens a lot,unfortunetly.often they find out sooner or later the other man wasn't worth it either..by then it's too late.

no divorce in the philippines?
yikes.

whoa, ite really surprised me, your cousin really is a something, hate her so much that she abandon her child [the worse thing human being doing], why don't you take care of her son instead of asking her to turn back? IMO that is much much much more better for your family

It is sad but the ones that suffer the most are the children. I know this is what upsets you and I don't blame you if it were my family I would feel the same way. Just remember that one day when she decides that she wants a relationship with her children that they will be the ones to reject her. She will then know how it feels.

I think that they way this ended is sad for the mother, but it doesnt have to be sad for the children. Trust me, just like Dr. Phil says: Children would rather come from a broken home than to "LIVE" in a broken home. Whatever trouble your cousin had, it just went over her head and it is something that other people with common sense should feel sorry for, because their is nothing more precious, valuable than family.

Umm before I dont make any sense (sometimes I have the habit of not explaining myself well so please be patient!). Every married couple has their issues... for a marriage to last it takes commitment,respect, responsability, communication, caring,patience and above all faith, love and hope, if one of those characteristics are lacking, is only a spiral for the worse. When quarrels ar not solved and escalate, when you become so selfish (sp?) that you dont even think about your spouse and children´s wellfare, when you try to seek the "answer" to your family problems with an affair or just tagging it with an excuse, that I married too young, that we are different blah blah blah without giving it your very very best and just cruised around hoping your spouse does everything... then, Im very sorry my friend, but I feel that your cousin doesnt deserve this man, even more after all he has done for his family.

I will pray for your family, for they will survive after this difficult time, I can sense the strength of your family and even if they are children, they are strong, and they will learn from this.. in one way or the other. I will pray for your cousin as well my friend.

Take care!

Wow, I can't believe that she would make such a decision as that. That is so sad that she decided to abandone her children like that and leave completely out of their lives and go with someone else. I hope that she eventually realizes what she has done and make the right decisions.

Hello eLsMarie,

This is really a sad thing.Your cousin has all the right for herself,but she must think about her children.
And having 4 kids already ugh!!!...

While reading your story i am having headache too..hehehe.Once married and had 4 kids already isn't she satisfied with her life and concentrate with her kids?I don't think she had enough with her first husband(enough problem not to re-marry again)...
I always hate thinking why there are woman who doesn't learn their lesson from first experiences...It's not bad to have another partner(she needs it,thats her opinion)but she have to always consider her kids future,thinking that,she might get pregant from this second guy...whoaaaa...what a conflict and more problem i guess would arise,unless she married a rich one who can afford to send all kids to school then maybe i can say she has this good reason to marry that second guy ...im really having headache (lolz)

Anyway,i am happy to read that your family never agree with her wrong doings now.Just hope that you can still give her advice my friend.

now a days relation ships are broken for a simple reasons.
In your cousin's case it was too bad she spoiled her life along with their childrens. according to your words your cousin con't gain happy anywhere, Yes that's true.
God see's every thing.