Are We To Nice To The Disabled

I think a lot of people want to do what they can to help someone who appears to be in need of a bit of assistance. I know I see it all the time. People will offer to open doors or reach something in a high spot, or even help with a shopping cart, as you have said. And yes, sometimes I do think we offend people by offering to help them, though I don't know why this is so.

Sometimes it depends on the situation. Maybe he did not need the help at all and people just tried to help him. Or maybe he really need help but doesn't want the help. Some people find it offending though, maybe because they are embarrassed of their disabilities but actually there's nothing to be embarrassed about it. They're not the only persons who are disabled so they don't have to be embarrassed.:)

The disabled are often ridiculed by most of the arrogant young and very less sensitive people feel affectionate about them. I feel proud that whenever a physically challenged one is competing with a perfect normal guy and most of them, come out of flying colors in even the most of arduous tasks.

Being disabled myself, I get a lot of help from strangers. At first I didn't want it, as I didn't feel I was that bad off. Now, things have gotten worse and I appreciate the help. It was hard to get used to people staring at me, especially kids. In the begining it was kind of embarrassing but now I'm used to it. I find myself hoping someone will get the door for me and stuff. I am always suprised when a young kid helps me or offers to, as they are usually in their own little world. Usually they will say there is something wrong with their mother or someone in their family and they know what it's like. I have a condition that isn't going to go away, it's degenerative, and people always ask me if it's my knees, and assume I'll be better eventually. I got tired of explaining what is wrong with me so I just agree that it's my knees or whatever they think it is.

I know what you mean. Actually most, if not all of them, want to be treated as equal to any of us. That is also why the term "disabled" has been considered offensive because it literally means "not abled". The more apt term now is "differently-abled" because these people are actually capable of doing things, but just not similar to what others can. SOme of the differently-abled does not want (or embarassed) to receive help because they feel like they are a burden to the society. They strive hard to live normally and so they want to be treated normally. Though we people are just trying to be courteous and nice to them, maybe the more appropriate thing we can do is to just provide them with a fair world. We should always follow the Accessibility Law and the Universal Design rules. Examples are providing ramps where there is stairs so they may access them because by doing this, we minimize our need to help them directly but still it shows how much we care for them. other examples are providing door latches and lever-type handles instead of knobs so those without hands may access the door. Providing Braille for every signage, employing large cubicles on public places, and sensor-automated facilities also help them live normally.

I would be to afraid to bother with them, when I see how they treat other people, I don't want a disabled person, yelling at me infront of other people, trying to make me look bad,like you say it depend on the person.