It was anxiety, fear, panice, whatever...

Let her know you are there for her. Tell her in school all you have to do is wait a day or two and BOOM there is a new thing to talk about. It will be forgotten,she knows in herself she meant no harm in it. And just show her love. It is not easy but if she lets them win over her now she will always be running from something.

well in my opinion you should try convincing her to go back and face their fears, after all you are a mother too, as a mother its your duty to teach your daughter of what implications that will fall upon if she hadn't gone to school,when i was a kid my parents do force me to go even if i refuse going to school,but my understanding at that time was my parents worked so hard for me and i should do the same for them had come up in my mind that gave me will power to face,the only thing you can do is tell her something that motivates or give a hope to go forward.

Hon, I SO feel for ya! Check out some of my discussions on anxiety.

I suggest you be sympathetic but firm.

You are absolutely right about "facing fear". I had to have my son in a 14 week program to help him to face his fears and we're still working on it.

If you can nip it in the bud your better off.

But ya gotta try to do it gently.

I could write PAGES on this subject, but I don't want to drive ya nuts. lol

Just know that if for some reason she doesn't get over it quickly (I sincerely hope she does) you have a sympathetic listener in me. AND someone with a lot of resources if you need them.

Good luck! Hoping she bounces back quickly!:-)

Poor baby! You need to talk to her teacher about this and together, come up with a plan. The teacher could mention to the class, before she returns to school, what had happened and how your daughter did not cheat. Do they have a guidance counsellor to help her develop coping mechanisms? She really needs help. I can so remember being scared to go to school and being ridiculed by my mother as a loser. I was 9 or ten at the time.

Personally I think this Boy needs to be rectified as it was not your Daughters Fault but the teachers as she should have known who took the test and who didn't
Personally I would have a word with the Teacher and basically tell her what has happened and to put it to the Class that it was not your Daughter in the wrong but herself/himself for overlooking that she had not done the test

Oh...poor poor babe. I have NO ideas but I can so empathize with her. I'd ask her if she would like for you to go talk to the teacher WITH her. How old is she again? I was like this, so I can really relate and am trying to think of what would have soothed me.......................I was also terrified of being the center of attention in ANY way..........poor girl..............dang.................I'm hurting for her.

I think each of us has been in a situation like that at least once during our school lives. It will all blow over soon enough and everyone will have forgotten.

Ah, so now I see the gist of the problem here. I was very much like that myself when I was young. In fact I had a boy who bullied me all through 5th grade and made my life a nightmare. Unfortunately, I didn't feel I could do much about it (and neither did he) because he was my father's boss's son. My parents were not the kind of people a child could turn to for help--not in school anyway.
I commend you for working through this with her. It's a big deal at that age, which as a parent, is the important part to remember.
By now, I hope you've been able to talk to the teacher and the counselor to get some advice for both of you. I also hope you share it with us here.:-)
The kids probably have forgotten, except for maybe the boy who accused her. Those kinds of kids have long memories. She may not be able to stop him from saying things, but she needs to be given the tools to use to stop him in his tracks. If he ever gets an inkling that he was able to get to her as much as he did, it will just give him added incentive.
It could logically be pointed out to her that if she had really intended to cheat, she never would have admitted that she hadn't taken the test yet, in the first place. Maybe it could be arranged for her to walk in with a close friend for a day or two, until she sees it's blown over. Best Wishes! xo

Hi dawnald,



Awwww, poor little girl, I think she should talk to her teacher what the problem is and the teacher will help her, other then that I have not got any clue.


Tamara

Hi dawnald,


I feel so sorry for your daughter, it must be so horrible to be in that sistuation, the best thing for her is to talk to her teach and see what she say, it has got to be sorted.


Tamara