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myLot reputation of 91/100. manong05 (2932)   ranked 29 out of 37,995 in life2 months ago

I grew up in a generation where the children sleep with the parents and all together in one room until I became a teen-ager where I wanted to have a space of my own. But I know a lot of couples where they let the baby sleep on a separate room on his own, I don't know if this affects the baby to some extents.

Personally, I don't like the idea.

Any opinion?

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 31/100. riyasbass (121)   ranked 8,742 out of 37,995 in life   2 months ago

The idea is just a cruelty to their children,such a baby will find it difficult to contact his or her external world and hence would surely become a broiler chicken.
They compresses all their problems and wishes and will always be gloomy....If you met such parents who promote such an activity........... stop them................


myLot reputation of 91/100. manong05 (2932)   ranked 29 out of 37,995 in life  2 months ago

You will be surprised that this is widely practiced now. I know of many westerners who do this, I'm not sure if this is practiced in the whole western world and majority likes it.

it will be interesting to get a response from a westerner.

cheers!


myLot reputation of 75/100. elenyae (381)   ranked 7,164 out of 37,995 in life  2 months ago

As I said in my post, I've always slept separate from my parents. I'd hardly consider myself gloomy. In fact, I've had a number of friends refer to me as bubbly and bright. I think it's even worse if you continually coddle a child until they can't take care of themselves or be independent.

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2. myLot reputation of 75/100. elenyae (381)   ranked 7,164 out of 37,995 in life   2 months ago

I've slept in a separate room to my parents pretty much since the day I was born. My parents didn't believe in mollycoddling me, although they did have the baby intercom so they COULD hear if I was in distress (so don't go thinking they were child-abusers or anything). But I slept through the night at a very young age anyway. I think if you always are there waiting on a child hand and foot from the time that they're little, they'll always expect it and never really become independent.

I don't believe in coddling children. It's a harsh and cruel world out there, and you had better start learning it now rather than getting a nasty shock when you finally get thrown out there on your own. xP


myLot reputation of 91/100. manong05 (2932)   ranked 29 out of 37,995 in life  2 months ago

So you actually slept in a separate room since you were born? I assume you will do the same in the event you have a baby of your own. Obviously you don't have anything against the practice.

cheers!


myLot reputation of 75/100. elenyae (381)   ranked 7,164 out of 37,995 in life  2 months ago

Yup! I'll definitely do the same thing with my child when I have one unless space really doesn't permit it. I don't think I turned out with any problems, so I'm pretty sure my kid won't either.:D

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3. myLot reputation of 37/100. meluan (891)   ranked 6,482 out of 37,995 in life   2 months ago

I personally did keep my children on my room till they ask to go on their own room

However my son was 3years old when he wanted to move on his room and he was very upset because he has to share it with his sister.All he could say was
"all my friends got their own room"

Maybe its because people can afford more nowadays and they do have monitor to check if their baby is awake or not


myLot reputation of 91/100. manong05 (2932)   ranked 29 out of 37,995 in life  2 months ago

Yes I hear that reasoning very often "but mom all my friends have their own rooms" LOL Some let their babies sleep alone but still they are in the same room with the parents like in your case.

cheers

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4. myLot reputation of 98/100. moneymakingtoday (1617)   ranked 2,519 out of 37,995 in life   2 months ago

all three babies slept with me in the past. i don't like to be bothered to sleepily walk to where they sleep if i let them sleep separately. also, i wanted to make sure they were okay all the time. i also did not want them to sleep with their nannies. i wanted them to be safe with me all the time. that was my choice and i loved my bonding moments with them.

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5. myLot reputation of 88/100. bmorehouse1 (637)   ranked 2,895 out of 37,995 in life   2 months ago

I think a baby should learn to go to sleep on their own. They don't need to be in the same bed or the same room as the parents. I just think that children sleeping with their parents is totally wrong! Sleeping with others affects the baby. When they become older how hard will it be to let them have their own room and then try to get them to go to sleep. Does the parent have to lie down with them to get them to fall asleep? Do they feel that someone always has to be with them before they can go to sleep? Sleeping time is very important and a routine needs to be started from the very beginning before problems develop later.


myLot reputation of 91/100. manong05 (2932)   ranked 29 out of 37,995 in life  2 months ago

Whetever the parents do, I think the babies must not be deprived of comfort and personal touch which is extremely important at that very early stage.

Thanks. have a great day.

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6. myLot reputation of 98/100. maximax8 (10344)   ranked 168 out of 37,995 in life   2 months ago

In my home country it is thought that it is best that the baby sleeps in a moses basket, crib or cot in his or her parents room. That should be until the baby reaches six months old. Then the baby could move into a cot in his or her own bedroom.

I think that babies like to share a room with their parents but school age children would prefer to have their own bedroom. I think that it is a lovely idea that you have of the babies, children and parents sharing a room.

My oldest son and my toddler son share a bedroom. I share my bedroom with my three month old baby daughter. She sleeps in her cot now that she has outgrown her moses basket.


myLot reputation of 91/100. manong05 (2932)   ranked 29 out of 37,995 in life  2 months ago

I like the idea of a moses basket. That's cute. I saw one when I visited an English couple years back. When they travel with the baby, this basket also goes with them.

Thank you. Have a nice day.

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7. myLot reputation of 99/100. shia88 (826)   ranked 1,938 out of 37,995 in life   2 months ago

Hi Manong,

From my opinion, I will let my son sleep together with me in the same room till he has started his primary school. That is the time where he can be more independent and know more about his surroundings.

Before he is in primary school, I prefer to let him sleep with me in the same bedroom,of course,not in the same bed. I let him sleep on his own mattress.

When it is time to let your kid to be independent,let it goes!!

Of course, before we start our project to let our kid sleep on his own bedroom,we have to explain to them why we are doing it. Tell them that thay have grown up and need to have own space. They have to learn on how to takecare of themselves too.So sleeping alone at their own bedroom is the first step to be out from parents guardian.


myLot reputation of 91/100. manong05 (2932)   ranked 29 out of 37,995 in life  2 months ago

Yes sleeping alone and separate from the parents is the first step towards independency. Most children loves this anyway and we will have no difficulty explaining it to them. However, it doesn't mean that they will always be alone in their rooms. Time comes that they sleep in the parents room when they ask for it either because they are sick or there are some things that worry them.

thank you. have a great day.


myLot reputation of 82/100. starsailover (850)   ranked 6,123 out of 37,995 in life  2 months ago

I had heard that some of the childhood hears came from the practice of sleeping in the same room with your parents. According to this theory, little kids are afraid of the sounds of their parents and their figures in the dark, and actually with the new technologies, you don't have to be in the same room to supervize your kid.


myLot reputation of 91/100. manong05 (2932)   ranked 29 out of 37,995 in life  2 months ago

Very interesting theory. That's worth looking into. I'll do that.

thanks shia.

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8. myLot reputation of 83/100. indybaty (249)   ranked 7,339 out of 37,995 in life   2 months ago

Since I was born I had my own room opposite my brothers, but that was only because by the time I was born, my parents were in a bigger house. They dont believe that any changes can occur with a baby if you put them in their room seperately, and they kept a watchful eye with me all the time since the room was next to mine.

With my 11 month old (soon to be a year!), he´s sletp with my husband and I but only because of space reasons. Since its hard to obtain a nanny Im staying at my mother´s so she can help me out while balancing work. But in my apartment he has his separate room and never shown any problems while sleeping.


myLot reputation of 91/100. manong05 (2932)   ranked 29 out of 37,995 in life  2 months ago

Very seldom we hear cases where babies sleeping alone have problems. you are right there.

thanks.


myLot reputation of 83/100. indybaty (249)   ranked 7,339 out of 37,995 in life  2 months ago

Oh you welcome, its really not has bad as some people may put it, I think some parents who are use to having the baby all the time with them, are the ones that hurt more than the baby really while separated.

I mean, if you leave a baby in a room and dont tend to the baby's needs, now THAT's bad.

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9. myLot reputation of 81/100. Archie0 (3135)   ranked 1,377 out of 37,995 in life   2 months ago

I think its not a good practise, the baby since then tends to lose the love and affection of his parents.I think a baby atleast till they grow up to be teenagers have to be kept or allowed to sleep with parents, Its just like when you pray, you dont know what you going to get, but you become a nice person who has nice thoughts.Its same like this, you dont know what you get but you are always overfilled with love and content when you actually got your baby sleeping holding your arms.

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10. myLot reputation of 78/100. simplegurl1969 (285)   ranked 3,784 out of 37,995 in life   2 months ago

A lot of differnt Cultures from all over the world practise letting their very young infants sleep with them. But here in the Unites States, if parents want to do this, it is recomended to get a crib & actally place it right next to the mothers side of the bed, so the baby can go to sleep in it without the fear of a parent possibly rolling over the young infant while asleep. This is also how SID's (Sudden Infant Death) happens. As the child gets older, say about 2 & a half years old or so, it is ok to move the child bed into a room that's close by the parents room, but it's recommended that the parents check on the child as often as they can & to always have a working baby monitor running at all times. Usually by the time the child reaches about four or five years old, they will often have their own bedroom.

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